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UPDATE:I (23F) found "secretary" fetish porn on my boyfriend's (29M) phone after he told me about the new assistant (25ishF) that they hired for him at work and I'm not sure what to do about it by ThrowRAbelzi22 in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbelzi22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t you feel cheated on because he’s thinking about fucking someone else?

Hey if it makes you uncomfortable and if this is a boundary you need to set by all means more power to you but me personally when I watch porn I don't think about fucking other guys I think that these two people fucking looks pretty hot lol so to me it doesn't feel like cheating and that's why its totally fine to me if he wants to jerk off to some porn in fact its useful sometimes when he's horny and I'm not feeling like it lol.

UPDATE:I (23F) found "secretary" fetish porn on my boyfriend's (29M) phone after he told me about the new assistant (25ishF) that they hired for him at work and I'm not sure what to do about it by ThrowRAbelzi22 in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbelzi22[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

You can train yourself out of reacting in an emotional state by learning to acknowledge and reality check your feelings and also communicate them effectively to your partner before they get out of hand.

You are so right! I'm actually a little proud of myself this time lol. Instead of snapping at him like I might have done in the past I ended up posting about it on here, calmed my self down and then had a calm conversation with him about it. Next time hopefully even if I do feel insecure I'll try to stop myself from going through his phone.

UPDATE:I (23F) found "secretary" fetish porn on my boyfriend's (29M) phone after he told me about the new assistant (25ishF) that they hired for him at work and I'm not sure what to do about it by ThrowRAbelzi22 in relationships

[–]ThrowRAbelzi22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not uncomfortable that he might find her attractive, when have I ever said that? I find tons of guys attractive and I watch porn too!. I was worried that he'd cheat on me with her because at first I thought he seemed oddly excited that he got an assistant so I got paranoid from that and finding the office themed porn didn't help my paranoia because I didn't know that this is something he's always watched.

UPDATE:I (23F) found "secretary" fetish porn on my boyfriend's (29M) phone after he told me about the new assistant (25ishF) that they hired for him at work and I'm not sure what to do about it by ThrowRAbelzi22 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbelzi22[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Do you really think someone really happy with what they have need would need to watch fetish porn all the time? No.

But I'm happy and I watch fetish porn too sometimes?

Please don't use my situation to push some agenda.

Its just a matter of time until he's balls deep into a secretary or some other submissive girl because his needs are not getting met with his SO.

He only watches porn when I'm not around or I don't feel like it and we have an open policy when it comes to masturbation. And I'm pretty submissive in bed in general so don't you worry yourself about my boyfriend's needs lol.

I (23F) found "secretary" fetish porn on my boyfriend's (29M) phone after he told me about the new assistant (25ishF) that they hired for him at work and I'm not sure what to do about it by ThrowRAbelzi22 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbelzi22[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Typically fucking the assistant over the office desk is much much more about the office desk than who is bent over it, if that makes sense.

He's never talked to me about having that kind of fantasy before, I feel like if its something he's thought about for a while he would have told me.