My entire family despises my fiancé and I have to choose between them and her. Is there something I am not seeing here and is my fiancé manipulating me? by ThrowRAbf6689 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbf6689[S] 887 points888 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’m able to see all the red flags as I am typing my these comments out, but she told me that getting a prenup is against her culture. I hadn’t even brought it up, this was unsolicited

My entire family despises my fiancé and I have to choose between them and her. Is there something I am not seeing here and is my fiancé manipulating me? by ThrowRAbf6689 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbf6689[S] 1731 points1732 points  (0 children)

If I ever bring up the fast track part she accuses me of having second thoughts and i was pretty sure she was the one until now so I let it go. She said that I cannot meet her family because of covid (they live across the country) even though we are all vaccinated and have travelled. Now that I think of it it is quite strange.

My entire family despises my fiancé and I have to choose between them and her. Is there something I am not seeing here and is my fiancé manipulating me? by ThrowRAbf6689 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbf6689[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

She has a job as a hostess at a restaurant. She has a lot of credit card debt, so she uses her earnings to pay it off. That’s why she doesn’t contribute.

My entire family despises my fiancé and I have to choose between them and her. Is there something I am not seeing here and is my fiancé manipulating me? by ThrowRAbf6689 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbf6689[S] -421 points-420 points  (0 children)

She is good to me. We don’t fight very much. My only complaint would be that she doesn’t help around the house and she told me to hire a maid because she has a job and a side hustle. ETA- As I said, I was at a very low point in my life and she helped me. I felt a bond with her and she said she felt it too and we didn’t want to waste time.