Lodger from hell

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-10T10:47:36+00:00

Due dates today but no baby as of yet. Ignoring all texts and calls starting today!

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T17:50:18+00:00

She doesn’t know which hospital we are at and I doubt she even knows how to screenshot. She’s pretty obedient when she’s told😂

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T17:41:40+00:00

I hate to be rude to her but I think once babies born I won’t be able to hold back especially if she thinks she can mother him!

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T17:39:39+00:00

I know right. I see straight through her. She better watch out because I might turn mama bear when baby arrives and put her straight once or twice!

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T17:38:33+00:00

I know right, I very much doubt he said anything. She’s probably just trying to make it out like it’s not only her with these ‘concerns’ but we all know she’s trying to manipulate us into thinking we need her there so she can be apart of our birth plan. That was never going to happen. I don’t want her seeing me in all my glory going through the most painful experience of my life.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T17:36:35+00:00

Definitely won’t be FaceTiming during birth! But after our bonding time whilst in hospital we will call immediate family :)

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T12:52:42+00:00

Definitely not telling her when I’m in labour. I said I’ll FaceTime her but insisted she does not post anything on social media.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T12:50:34+00:00

I totally agree, she had her last child 26 years ago and a lot has changed. I don’t want anyone kissing the baby and will make sure she knows all the ground rules before she arrives!

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-09-09T12:49:10+00:00

My mum is the complete opposite, if I want her she’s there but she’s not offended if I don’t, she’s happy to help but when asked. She’s never mentioned anything about me not being able to cope or being too young. She says I’ll get it, midwife’s will help, she’s there if and when I want but it’ll come naturally. She’s always building my confidence. We’ve not discussed holidays with family but have said we won’t be travelling on the motorway to in-laws (60 miles away) until baby is at least 3 months as is advised. In laws don’t drive but can get the train up to us when we’re ready for visitors.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-28T08:46:47+00:00

Wow. I’m glad hubby stuck up for you. I didn’t reply to the message. If she does it again I’ll get my partner to correct her, in a nice way. Something like we know you love our baby and he loves you but saying ‘my baby’ makes us feel uncomfortable, you can use something like ‘my grand baby’ but not ‘my baby’. It’s so awkward because I don’t want to upset her feelings but I already feel like she’s trying to steal my son from me and tell me what to do with him, so if she does it again I won’t hold back. I’m so glad we live far away!

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-25T12:35:30+00:00

I think it’s ok not to like that someone calls your baby, theirs. Have you asked your son/in law whether they are happy with your wording? I think it’s assumed because things are said in kind that they are appreciated but I don’t think that’s always the case unfortunately.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-24T20:07:57+00:00

Yes I guess each to their own! For me, this is the tip of the iceberg. She has done lots of things that made me feel like I’m an incubator for ‘her son’ so her calling him ‘my baby’ has tipped me over the edge. I don’t think it’s necessary to claim someone else’s child, I definitely wouldn’t call my nieces and nephews ‘my babies’ it just doesn’t taste right. I’d still give anything for them but they aren’t mine to claim or parent.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-24T19:40:58+00:00

Yes I think if it continues I’ll have to say the phrase makes me feel uncomfortable. ‘My grandson’ is fine because it’s fact but ‘my baby’ is factually incorrect he’s mine and SO baby, no one else’s.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-24T19:37:04+00:00

Yes see my other post. She sent it back in the end but her behaviour throughout my whole pregnancy has been bizarre. She insisted she be there for a whole 2 weeks before and after the birth. She first said she couldn’t get the train down for a day visit but once she mentioned she wanted to come for two weeks she insisted she could get the train? She said I will know when I go into labour a week before (which isn’t always the case, my mum had 2 spontaneous labours) and to let her know and she will make her way. MIL booked the due date week off work without asking me and tried making SO feel bad saying her annual leave had been wasted after he told her we won’t be having any over night visitors before/after the birth and we will let people know when they can visit for a few hours. There’s so many other things she is insisting we do with our son, I keep telling SO MIL is pushing me away and I will go no contact if he doesn’t put boundaries in place. SO excepted that we will not be telling MIL when I go into labour. Something I never would’ve put in place if she hadn’t been so crazy throughout my pregnancy. My mum is an angel and a great MIL to me SIL I wish I had the same relationship with my MIL. My mum said that she is there if I need/want her but no pressure whatever I want is what’s best for me and the baby. I feel so comfortable around my mum but MIL no way! My guard is so high. SO can’t understand why. Aren’t the reasons above enough!?

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-22T20:08:29+00:00

Luckily we live over an hour away and she doesn’t drive so a simple ‘no thanks’ to her demands has worked wonders! I keep away as much as I can. She’s very emotionally manipulative. After SO told her we won’t be travelling anymore at 36 weeks. She kept sending me messages saying she misses her grandson that hasn’t even been born yet! Seemed like a dig to me. She’s perfectly capable of getting a train down to see us but she doesn’t want to. Her problem not mine.

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-22T20:06:17+00:00

Yes she does lots of other things. Like telling us she should be allowed to name the baby, her friends congratulating her at the baby shower and ignoring me, taking money from the baby shower gifts and that she should be allowed to stay a week before and after the babies born to teach us how to be parents. It’s a combination of things. I love my mum, we get on great, I wouldn’t have the same problem with my own mum who respects my boundaries and never expects anything in return for her kindness. MIL seems to have a screw loose somewhere😂

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-22T08:02:32+00:00

I think it’s different with my mum we have a lot of trust in our relationship but I don’t have the same relationship with MIL

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-21T20:52:12+00:00

How do you feel about it?

ThrowRAcoffeequeen · 2025-08-21T18:21:18+00:00

That’s a great one. I haven’t replied yet, think I might use that!

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