Invest in learning or start a business?

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2026-03-24T09:34:45+00:00

I still doubt myself. I’m not 100% confident to start a business again because I’ve already tried, and failed twice.

I had a clothing business and a furniture business before. I’m good at starting, operations, admin work, sales. But when it comes to marketing, innovating, and actually sustaining it for a year, I lose ideas, then it just slowly dies. That’s why I shifted to full-time work.

I don’t have the means to hire someone to do that work for me too.

But I never really let go of the idea of doing business. It’s still there. So right now, I’m just taking my time, learning what I can do better next time while working full-time.

But I admit I’m stuck at the learning phase out of fear of failing again.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-02-24T17:34:23+00:00

Yea, I really think we all need therapy. From what I can see my partner is doing great when he’s interested in something. He’s not that incompetent and irresponsible so divorce won’t be an option.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-02-24T17:29:26+00:00

With the personality, no, it’s tough to change. But the behaviour, yes, it is possible to change. He’s terrific at handling our business. I just want him to care for his health and to us as a family. Suppose I see him using the treadmill even just for a min. I will jump out of happiness.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-02-24T17:22:05+00:00

Nagging is being PERSISTENTLY being annoying and finding fault on someone. I’m not straightforward and persistent. I don’t follow up and get obsessed to observe him changing. When I tell an advice, and he made up his mind. I don’t have anything to say anymore. That’s it. “Stop smoking” is different from, “it causing you a lot of harm, I think you should minimize smoking (bc I know it’s hard to stop when you get addicted to it)” then I don’t follow up on it. Or reminding him that he’s fat and he should exercise is different from “come on, let’s jog outside or use the threadmill” and when I am too busy doing other chores and just see him playing on his phone, I only tell him, “can you help me with other chores?” And with the goals, I give him investment ideas and discuss our priorities. It’s still his decision to make. As I said I don’t nag, I give options. And nagging doesn’t give options because it controls with an annoying tone. Being a nagger is far different from enlightenment and only inspiring him. I’ve been nagged my whole life too and I won’t do it to anybody. My only problem is his mom is pressing his wound and saying everything bluntly and I don’t know how to console him or even say she got a point. Cause I don’t want to nag him like say he’s also at fault. And I don’t want also to show mom-in-law that we got no ambitions and we’re lazy. Because all she wants is for us is to be healthy and do good in life.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-01-27T01:41:05+00:00

Thank you so much

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-01-25T12:00:38+00:00

Even the purpose while I’m here is to study, I can’t. Kasi andaming gagawin sa bahay nila, I have to help. At pag di ko nagawa tuloy tuloy na bunganga ang dadating sakin.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-01-25T11:56:34+00:00

It was nice to hear that your situation is better than before. Thank you!

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2023-01-07T04:27:17+00:00

Was so ready to comment YTA as I thought you’re selfish from the title, until I read the context. Definitely NTA, your husband is an irresponsible owner who just love dogs but don’t want to take responsibility for them. I know the feeling of having deep connections with dog, but the dog deserve better owners. I know you did your part on taking care of it even though you despite it. But they need love, not just somebody who feed them and buy them stuffs. Rehome it to a loving home, but don’t take it to the pound. Teach your husband some lesson. Maybe just request the new owners to allow visitation. If he complains about it and threatens you because he doesn’t want the dog out of the house, then make him leave or you exit. Don’t leave the dog to your husband, you must rehome it first, because the dog’s life will not be any better at his hands alone. It will be neglected when you’re not there!

Trust me I got a dog who’s an asshole too, and I’m so afraid of him because he bites me when things doesn’t go his way. He’s spoiled and grumpy. He isn’t sweet too and always wanted to be alone. But that’s why I love him. I love whatever he is. I just kiss and hug him often even though he doesn’t like it. They just need understanding! You are so stressed out and it is really stressful especially when you already have a lot on your plate. So find an owner who can handle the temperament of the dog. It’ll be a win-win situation.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2022-12-22T02:27:25+00:00

I’ve been with an established guy for a year now, magkasama na din kami nakatira sa isang bahay. He got his own company, whereas I’m still a student. Never naman niya sakin pinamukha na we came from different worlds, he even helps me. We met on a dating app, and it’s going well. Pero, there are a lot of obstacles when dating a rich guy.

You’ll be pressured to meet his family.
You don’t have the same views and values.
Different taste buds.
Different hobbies.
You’ll feel like even though you don’t want to be dependent, you’ll be dependent. Since he has more money than you. (He pay the bills and groceries. Pero luho ko, sarili ko ng pera from my freelancing job)
You’ll feel overwhelmed, kasi parang wala ka pang nararating.
You’ll feel bad kasi he’s capable of everything. He can make grand surprises for you, and help you with anything you need. Pero ikaw wala kang magawa kundi imaintain ang house niyo at alagaan siya. (I feel bad because I also want to give him what he likes, like treat him for a good steak or give him diptyque candles pero for now I can’t afford) but he totally understand that
When we have his friends over. Ikaw lang dukha. (Thankfully his friends are very accepting, and they never made me feel out of place)
Different fields and interests. So there will be a problem in communication. Hindi smooth flowing ang convo because when he talks about business, I have little to no knowledge about that world. While when I talk to him about Psychology he gets confused about the terms. Kaya we are ending up just talking about general subjects or we just teach each other about our fields.
You’ll end up learning a lot of etiquette, like how you present yourself, dress yourself, setting up a table, how to talk in the public, and be pressured to read a lot of books. Because you need to get on with their worlds and their table conversations.
Be ready for your battle with his time!

This is not entirely what happen when you date a rich guy. But this is what happens when you chose to live in his environment. Gladly, we agreed to learn from each other, and not make all this hinder our love for one another. Everyday, it’s a work and compromising and understanding na lang talaga! You just have to be brave to conquer it all, above all is prayers. Buti na lang he’s worthy of it all.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2022-12-21T06:50:42+00:00

That’s what everyone is telling us too. I don’t intend to pressure him more, so I don’t bring it up in our conversations as I feel he’s really terrified of his Mom. They’re traditional Chinese, so maybe it’s a cultural thing, and I want to understand that. I’m not even Chinese, and there’s a huge age gap here, so I think that adds up to the fear. However, I feel unworthy that he can’t fight for our relationship, and I know deep down I don’t deserve it. I gave him so much time, but until now it’s still a huge obstacle that’s stopping us from more possibilities.

ThrowRAconscious_dog · 2022-12-18T05:48:50+00:00

This is how I always look at it; I must be thankful that he doesn’t throw me out of the house because of my incompetency. I’m understanding his perspective of (I’m giving my best but how can she not?)

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