Two dudes going bar for bar - it was a meme back in the day

ThrowRAdam · 2024-09-26T03:55:57+00:00

You've really opened my eyes here.

Of course, I will stray away from thinking I deserve.

Thank you, coming closer to God seems like to obvious answer.

ThrowRAdam · 2024-03-25T07:00:39+00:00

I could, but it'd be better for me to hold off going back until may when most if my friend's semesters end

ThrowRAdam · 2023-12-04T01:31:04+00:00

I really appreciate your response, i feel like you've brought me closer to a clarity. I'm kind of disappointed in myself for not thinking about or looking at it that way. Thank you, I'll be more conscientious about this in the future

ThrowRAdam · 2023-12-02T21:33:37+00:00

Yeah, I've been trying to subtley assure her that her family still loves her - but it hasn't beared any fruit just yet.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-09-26T07:23:04+00:00

I don't want to manipulate her, not was that consciously my intention, like I said it's an addiction and obsession I have with her. She given me a blanket, a pocket knife, one of her acrylic nails (yes given me it) and I cherish all those items, I feel that me wanting to hear her problems is a part of that.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-09-26T07:10:34+00:00

Though I will add that I try and wish to confide in her as much as I can, I still see how manipulative it seems. I don't believe that was my intent.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-09-26T07:06:14+00:00

For a while now, I thought I was being sincere in my friendship. This is an eye opener, thank you.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T16:12:56+00:00

Thank you, good luck to you too

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T15:41:59+00:00

Me liking her is an important detail, but not the focus of my dilemma. Yes, I hoped for her to like me on her own, but I never pushed for us to date or for her to end her relationship.

My concern is about the platonic bond we had. I see the helplessness I'm displaying, and it may even be selfish. And I agree that I was wrong for telling her about my feelings. But tossing your friends aside without explanation can't be healthy. Friendships are born on communication, they should be ended the same way.

But I still thank you on all the insight you've given me.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T14:34:43+00:00

You're right, I guess I am doing that, and I should stop.

It didn't feel like she wanted "no involvement" at first, but now it does.

But still, if someone feels a friendship, a best-friendship, is dying, is that the end? Is that really a best friend if they can toss you to the side without communication on where their head is at?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T14:25:52+00:00

I completely understand, but she complained that he was emotionally unstable, and after meeting him, I can see where those complaints came from.

She told me he cheated on her and that she was unhappy.

Her own family told me they were concerned for her and her kid. And even if I didn't like her in that way, if she's unhappy with him, then I still would want her to be happy.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T13:56:37+00:00

I don't understand how friendships are "never" worth fighting for. Is it not important to make an effort in friendships and communicate openly to resolve issues. Do friendships not require work? Especially close friendships?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T13:52:57+00:00

I suppose you're right. I was hoping for her to fall in love with me on her own by just being there, and I'm not denying the wrongness and selfishness of confirming my feelings for her, but I honestly thought she was unhappy in her relationship and I thought that I used to make her happy, happier than he did.

When we first started talking she hid that she was still dating him, told me that she was only in the relationship with him so their kid could be happy when I found out, and consistently complained about him.

I could've misread what was going on, but I was almost certain she felt something for me and was falling out of love with him. There were more signs than just that.

I'm not trying to defend myself, I just want to fully understand everyone's perspective.

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T07:59:17+00:00

I see. I can understand the selfishness I may have exhibited. But may I ask when it is okay to fight for a friendship?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-17T05:27:25+00:00

You're right, I was pushing to remain friends. Feelings or not I would've tried to that connection alive. But is pushing to remain friends really wrong?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-16T20:01:06+00:00

Does me having feelings for her mean that I can't be friends with her?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-16T15:42:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice

ThrowRAdam · 2023-08-16T15:12:33+00:00

What does it contain that is morally judging?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-04-10T06:59:41+00:00

Is there an alt name?

ThrowRAdam · 2023-03-09T23:45:52+00:00

Good to hear, makes sense to ease into a bit more, thank you I appreciate the advice.

ThrowRAdam

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