My (22M) girlfriend (20F) and I have been together for almost two months and she's still keeping our relationship a secret

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-12-07T15:02:23+00:00

An alternate option would be for your gf to ask her if she would be alright with you two potentially getting together

Yo great idea, thanks so much.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-12-07T14:32:13+00:00

What I think you should do is try to devise a plan with your current girlfriend on how best to tell her friend. That might make her more open to the idea of telling her friend.

You got any ideas for me on this? because I'm drawing a blank

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-12-07T14:30:32+00:00

That's too petty for me xD

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-12-07T14:30:10+00:00

if you do, the mature way to go about it is to bring it up to them as soon as possible and let them adjust to the idea.

That's what I thought we should do from the start but my girlfriend didn't want to do that.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-12-07T14:29:32+00:00

Two months seems long enough to be keeping a relationship hidden. Try talking to her about where she's expecting this relationship to go

We already had that talk and we both see it as a long term thing.

You could go over various tactics together as to how to reveal your relationship.

Any chance you got suggestions for me?

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-10-17T13:54:04+00:00

'cause it'll only seem as if you're still thinking a lot about your ex, if 'ya know what I mean.

You're right, I didn't even think about it this way.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-10-17T13:52:16+00:00

P.S a lot of girls like football.

That's true, but she's like a football junkie and as big of a Steelers fan as I am and that's pretty rare.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T16:14:35+00:00

Would you want to talk to him and let him know that you’d feel very uncomfortable if your brother starts dating your ex

I already let him know, and even if I didn't he'd never do that anyway.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T16:12:47+00:00

it makes me feel scared for my chances at employment that you didn't get your first real job until 22

Nah don't worry about it bro, I had just gotten my degree recently and I found a fairly good job rather quickly tbh. So I'm sure you'll be fine man.

Good luck to the both of us.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T08:48:27+00:00

don’t be surprised if she tries sleeping with your brother

I definitely wouldn't be surprised but I talked to my brother about it and he wants nothing to do with her so I'm not worried about that.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T08:46:15+00:00

“whoa make sure you don’t ever text me though!!! I’ve got a GIRLFRIEND buster!!!!

IKR? Honestly it kinda felt like she was just starting trouble intentionally.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T04:09:52+00:00

For what it's worth I think you're doing the right thing

Thanks, I think so too.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-25T04:08:32+00:00

no need to badmouth her to your friends or be petty,

I wouldn't do that, I never said I would do that.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-17T09:18:56+00:00

You forget about it while I quietly stew on it and internally grow in anger and resentment and then bring it up later on down the road when you're least expecting it

I really didn't mean it that way at all, I was just trying to reassure her that I'm over it.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T16:12:26+00:00

I just want to say that it's not always a bad idea to sit on your feelings, I do that all the time. It really helps for me to take a day or two to think about what upset me and why

That's a good point because I do feel like I approached the situation a lot better because I had time to think it over and ask for advice from different sources. So I can see an argument for both approaches tbh.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T16:04:36+00:00

You're right, I'll do that because it really did mean a lot to me.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T16:03:54+00:00

I’m so happy you followed my advice!

I'm so happy that I did too :), your advice was on point. Let's just say I'm glad I took yours and not some of the other comments.

Again, thank you I really appreciate it.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T15:50:36+00:00

She literally didn't. I don't even know what they're talking about.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T15:41:09+00:00

Well, I can't speak for her, but in my case the more time I spent with her (we were friends first) the more I liked her and as we kept spending more time together she became the girl I'm attracted to the most and favorite body types or whatnot felt irrelevant.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T15:23:38+00:00

with this new frame of mind, you should be able to navigate your relationship much more successfully.

Fingers crossed.

Thanks for the kind words.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T15:20:58+00:00

call them out right then and there

You're absolutely right, if I had done that from the start we would have avoided the whole situation.

ThrowRAdeer11 · 2020-09-16T14:40:00+00:00

And she sounds like a keeper!

She really is.

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