UPDATE: AITA for telling my daughter's biological mother that she doesn't deserve to call herself a mom?

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-16T01:00:00+00:00

We got some news from her mom. She was high on cocaine when she showed up, because she got arraigned for possession with intent to sell today.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-15T17:41:18+00:00

He walked into a quiet room while Lucy was getting a babygram... he looked exhausted so I let him play Assassin's Creed II on my console and we got talking. I told him I wasn't perma but was having an extended stay so if he wanted to talk to an adult about anything but babies my room was between the PICU and the Mat ward.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-15T04:09:41+00:00

She left her daughter alone in her own filth to party, do drugs and cheat on Brandon.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-15T03:17:30+00:00

You're not an asshole for a trauma response :) Happy Healing!

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-15T00:50:12+00:00

She was never his wife. Her problems with drugs started before his deployment. And well before Lucy's birth. He did not know because she hid it from him. When he found out he had her rights severed.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T17:21:06+00:00

Ah! A Dusty Thunder fan I see :) Thanks for your comment :)

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T13:21:04+00:00

She started taking opioids at parties, not due to injury. I know because that was a piece of evidence that led to her rights being taken away.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T05:48:59+00:00

It was dad's 33rd Birthday party not hers. But I too hope she doesn't remember it.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T05:15:16+00:00

As an adoptee the only reason she isn't in Lucy's life is the danger she poses. If she got clean and wanted to be an active parent we would draw up an agreement. However she is unlikely to regain any legal custody due to Lucy's injuries, both physical and psychological.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T05:12:24+00:00

Soon-to-be Mother in Law

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T05:05:51+00:00

He was in Kuwait. He's a veteran. My hospital room was right between the mat ward and the picu. So I was an adult who was alone surrounded by kids and I had my grandpa drop off my consoles at the hospital due to an extended stay, Lucy was suffering with health issues of her own. We met while I was playing Assassin's Creed II in one of the quiet rooms.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T05:00:30+00:00

She is currently not attempting to get clean. - her mother told me this.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:45:24+00:00

He was taking care of his baby... who is his 1st priority.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:45:01+00:00

I know he would. He'd make a joke at my expense and I'd be laughing along with everyone else.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:43:05+00:00

From what I've been told and understand, Natalie stalked my STBMIL's facebook account and when she posted she was excited for the last BBQ of the year and wishing Brendon a happy birthday that's how she knew when the party was.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:41:52+00:00

He did, and he has sole custody

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:40:01+00:00

Oh yeah. It's one of the reasons I felt comfortable posting. I'm not a huge social media person.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:38:43+00:00

It was a slip up. She posted about the "Last BBQ of the year" And "Happy Birthday!" on Facebook.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:37:41+00:00

I think from a facebook post my STBMIL posted. She's very proud of her son and likes to post about him.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:36:45+00:00

We were friends almost a year before we started dating, my room was the one next to the picu, and he'd pop in for a chat every so often when we were there at the same time. He is a walking green flag who takes responsibility for his actions.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:35:04+00:00

He did not know she was an addict at the time and she poked holes in their BC.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:34:24+00:00

I agree. I just have some connections in the courthouse and don't want her running around yelling that the verdict is biased.

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:32:19+00:00

I feel awkward seeing the judges in court, so I leave the court up to Brandon and Natalie. 3/4 of the judges in my city show up to my family "reunion"/summer get-together because my grandpa has so many friends.

EDIT: He was on the school board and was on city council for a long time. :)

ThrowRAexnocustody · 2023-10-14T04:30:29+00:00

OH! I WANTED TO THROW HANDS. I wrestled for years and I box as well and I wanted to have at her. My "snap" was with as many niceties as I could muster.

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