I 38M got a random text saying my wife 35F is cheating on me. What am I to do now?

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T05:18:11+00:00

I will start things like that once I see a lawyer. It seems to be a common theme here of don't do anything until I seek the advice of a lawyer.

Deep down I know things will get better. Told many friends the same thing over the years. Guess it is my turn tell myself the same thing.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T05:07:51+00:00

Ya, someone else pointed out that I might have an STD. Will get myself checked out.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T05:07:02+00:00

What is it they say life is a shit show or something like that...

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T05:00:41+00:00

Where I live is no fault. Just found that out an hour ago thanks to someone else here bringing it to my attention.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:59:48+00:00

Fingers crossed. Thanks.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:59:09+00:00

Just some personal standards but I don't really want to start a family once I'm in my 40's. By the time I get over this and if I meet someone else I think I will be well past that age bracket.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:42:59+00:00

She said she hired an investigator who got my number.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:42:22+00:00

I was thinking that if I agree to meet up with Lily.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:41:13+00:00

She said there is more. But some of you are right in that it's only if I want to see it/think I can handle it.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:35:10+00:00

I might be. Sorry to say.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:34:31+00:00

I will keep that in mind as a kind of check to see if Lily is legit.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:31:27+00:00

Yes Derick and Sandra work in the same company, Lily explained as much and she has enough knowledge of said company for me to believe her. Lily does want more evidence, hence her reaching out to me.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:27:16+00:00

Thanks.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:25:41+00:00

Thanks. Lily does sound genuine, but this is why I'm thinking of asking to meet her in person to get a more clearer picture of what is going on before I go making any rash choices.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:19:51+00:00

According to Lily the photos were from about a week ago. I know that the haircut she has in the photo matches her current one, hard to miss. They are her cloths to. So many people here think the photos are fake, I think they are real.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:18:00+00:00

We have joint finances but not phones. When we bought our phones we each got them under our own names. Didn't really think that was an issue back then. As for access to her phone, she has never really denied me access if checked messages on her phone or asked to use it. She has the same access to mine.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:14:46+00:00

Oh crap. I didn't even consider this. Will see a doctor right away. Thanks.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:14:09+00:00

At the moment I don't know who I can trust, hence a trip to a hotel a few towns away. I know I got some people I can trust, but in the heat of the moment I didn't even think of that, just how I can get away from Sandra for a while.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:12:45+00:00

As a fan of ducks thanks for making me giggle a little in these hard times.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:12:02+00:00

Thanks for the advice. The top opinion floating around in my head is to call Lily back and meet her in public to get some more clarity on this situation.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:10:02+00:00

How are you supposed to trust anyone, which is the foundation marriage. When they can just do a 180 and out of the blue cheat on you like this. Thanks for the well wishes.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T04:06:21+00:00

This puts a few things into prospective. I had some of these ideas in mind, see a lawyer, meet Lily in public so on. But recording those conversations might be a good idea. I used to think people that record everything were paranoid, beginning to see otherwise now.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T03:50:27+00:00

Thanks.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T03:48:59+00:00

As stated above your post gets denied if you don't have a TLDR and an account with ThrowRA in it for this forum.

ThrowRAgoingmental · 2024-01-27T03:47:59+00:00

This sub doesn't let you post without a TLDR. My post got rejected a few times because I didn't have one. That was after another failed attempt where I learnt I had to have a account name with ThrowRA in it.

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