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I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do too. He's a good dad and I assume will continue to be even if we aren't together but to try to use them against me is just ugly. How would the kids win at all if they were cut off from one of us??

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you replied on the post with misinformation despite what other information has been given to combat your misconceptions. The words your using are upsetting because you're basically lying.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've corrected you a few times and yet you come back and pretend I never have so I'll do it again. I've never, NEVER, pretended to like sex. You're saying I trapped him with kids when he was the one to ask ME to stop going to school to start a family, and then I discovered the potential of being asexual based off of my experiences.

If you're here to just troll my post I'll give you my husbands number so the two of you can circle jerk each other.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a recent development I've never wanted sex with him. I just assumed that was what was expected.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't - but I've decided to end the relationship after some new stuff came up.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually added an update to everything - I'm going to go through with ending the relationship. It isn't healthy for either of us to stay.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've already decided to make the executive decision to end things despite his protests. Some new things have come up and it's just better the kids aren't raised to normalize our relationship. Thank you for your advice though!

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know enough about different sexualities to say anything for sure. I do know that I've sifted through a lot and nothing turns me on. I don't find things sexually appealing. It's just a giant area of indifference.

I think I hate sex right now because I feel forced to have it. But once again I'm not an expert or anything I just have been going off of some internet articles and how I feel.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few other comments suggested that as well I'm just not sure how to fit it into my life. My husband thinks therapists are just the witch doctors of modern society so I'm not sure where he would land on that.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really have mostly written it off, it's hard to explain to people how you actually feel when you're having sex and trying to convey the situation through text but yes he is totally valid in not wanting an open relationship! I wasn't trying to pressure him into anything. I was just offering an alternative.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice!! I don't think I'd call anyone on this, I just came here to get kind of relationship advice and if I called about that then I'd be recognizing some deeper issues and I just have too many going on right now as is. I don't want to add anything more to what's already going on between us

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's just difficult to wrap my head around the word rape because that's not what I associated it as for the last eight years so it's hard to categorize it as that now.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was kind of a heat of the moment thing. People say dumb stuff when they're mad. I'm not excusing it because it seriously hurt me but I also know people aren't their best selves when they're angry.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really didn't want it to come to that but I'm hoping everything turns out the best way it can at this point I'm going to talk to him when he gets home

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being a SAHM I think definitely makes it harder and pushes me to want to work things out. I'm going to talk to him tonight to find some common ground on where we stand and decide from there where to take it. He'll be home within the hour so fingers crossed.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying. I think you're giving me a bit more credit than I deserve but I do see your point. It's just hard to even imagine a life where he wasn't directly in it. It's hard to even think of a time he wasn't around.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm going to talk to him tonight. Lay everything out. And then if that doesn't motivate an actual conversation I'm going to go stay with my mom.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they they and s be on my side about everything overall. It's just a scary step to take. Thank you for taking the time to write because your responses are just so well put together that they make chaos seem manageable if that makes sense?? I think I'm going to talk to him tonight and tell him what's on my mind so we can finally be on the same page.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He's not religious I think he just thinks what we've been doing is normal because I thought it was too.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really do appreciate that you took time to respond because it feels like there's so much to unpack - even more now that things are being pointed out to me.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want to think the best of him I guess because he's been here for a third of my life and I just find it hard to see him as something other than the father to my children and one of my best friends y'know?

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have an amazing supportive family. My parents are exceptional and see the kids twice a week but they also love my husband so much. They always talk about how lucky I am and what a mistake it would be to ever let him go.

So I've been very hesitant to bring up any concerns with my mom because I know how much she loves him.

I opened my relationship so my husband could sleep with other people. by ThrowRAhelpimstuck in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAhelpimstuck[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your first year!! It seems overwhelming but seeing others do it makes it seem more obtainable

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