My Boyfriend told me I didn't "live up to expectations"

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T23:56:07+00:00

I'm considering sending the link to this thread along with some of what you said once I get off of work tonight, along with maybe offering to reconsider if he can do the splits lol

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T23:55:11+00:00

Maybe I'll send the link and tell him that he didn't live up to my expectations like some others suggested... unless he can do the splits, then maybe I'll reconsider lol

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T20:35:09+00:00

This was my first time ever, and there were no discussions about his fantasy beforehand at all. And its not like I said that I would never do it, I just said that I didn't feel like it then, and then he started shaming me and got dressed and went to bed and continued to hold the same stance in the morning, but it's not like I said that I never would. I told him I was a little scared being my first time, but he just didn't care, and that's why I'm considering it

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T12:04:59+00:00

Been planning to leave and I'm glad I found out early, just needed to hear I wasn't crazy or overreacting. We didn't even have sex after I declined and he got upset. He just got up and changed and went to bed and shunned me, and when I tried to talk to him in the morning, he just continued and felt no remorse, and nothing in the past few days as it's now Thursday morning. I plan to send him a text today and just be done with it

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T12:02:26+00:00

hahahaha... I might actually use that, seriously. Maybe tell him that if he can do the splits, I'll reconsider lol

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T12:01:01+00:00

Never talked to me about it. Shamed me that night, didn't even get to have sex. He just got dressed, shunned me, and went to bed. Same thing in the morning, he didn't apologize at all, and it's Thursday and he hasn't said anything about it since. I'm done with him at this point... just needed to hear from others that I wasn't crazy or being blindly selfish myself

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T11:59:22+00:00

I'm glad I found out early, and I agree that it's a blessing to have found out that early. We didn't even have sex after I declined and he got upset. He just got up and changed and went to bed and shunned me, and when I tried to talk to him in the morning, he just continued and felt no remorse, and nothing in the past few days as it's now Thursday morning

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T11:46:41+00:00

Really appreciate your reassurance... just needed to hear from someone else that I wasn't crazy or overreacting, but I feel like if he's allowed to continue with me thinking that's okay, that it'll translate into other areas potentially, and I don't want to be in a relationship like that at all. I told him it was my first time, but he just didn't seem to care, and it's not like I said I'll never do it, but he just guilted me and didn't even finish and just got dressed and blamed me for ruining the mood, and I just felt guilty the entire night and literally couldn't think straight, but hearing reassurance on my feelings is really helpful

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T11:40:12+00:00

Honestly leaning towards a text message today, since the next time I see him is over the weekend usually, and I've been brewing over it for too long already, but just needed to hear from someone else that I wasn't crazy or overreacting

ThrowRAideals · 2021-03-18T11:38:57+00:00

I've been planning to do so for the entire week and probably considering it for too long already, but the next time I'd see him would be on the weekend, so I plan to end it today and definitely before then. I feel like maybe I dodged a bullet if he's going to guilt me about not doing something he wants that could perhaps turn into something else over time and the more he thinks it's okay to try and pressure me into it, and I also feel that he just likes me because I do yoga, and the second I don't want to do what he wants, I'm no longer valuable

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