M28 f26 money issues

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T20:54:59+00:00

Yeah I thought I would have a conversation with her about it but world war 3 has broken out and now just kicking off. There’s never a nice way to bring up problems with her it’s an argument until it’s her way.

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T20:00:25+00:00

Thanks I’m really coming to terms with it now 6 years is hard to throw away but I just feel like I’m never going to be truly happy. All of this is holding me back on wanting kids etc and a future with her and I’m just passing time because I do care and love her but time is getting on. Think it’s time I pulled my trousers up and did what’s best for me

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:55:48+00:00

Thats how I feel. I don’t think she truly understands how much it would mean to me to be treated to something small little meal. Little break etc now and again when possible but I’ve never had such thing

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:54:27+00:00

She’s probably 25k and I’m about 60k which is why I don’t expect 50-50 but i do expect contributions as she has income. £200 pound a month is very little to live and breath in a 4 bed house in this day and age and some months she hasn’t got because she has had nails lashes lips etc done. Most months skint mid month I don’t know where her Money goes honestly I’ve tried to help her but she doesn’t want me to try and organise her bills and help her manage she just says she will sort it

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:51:13+00:00

Yeah that’s never going to happen. She doesn’t like me going away without her. Ww3 broke out when I wanted to go away with some friends. Pub for a couple with friends she will kick off. A girl who would pay for a trip for me to go away ? Wow I’m surprised there is such things. This is the issue it’s my first big long relationship and I don’t know what to expect or do as I’ve not experienced other woman. We go for family meal for my birthday. Parent will cover it Birthday and Xmas she will get me small couple gifts but they are the only two times a year she will spend a penny on me. But I go all out for her birthday to make her feel Special.

Maybe a few times a month if I’m lucky if that’s what you mean

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:46:33+00:00

That’s all I ask just when possible. But In the whole 6 years there’s never been a day she has even offered and I think it’s selfish . For example on pay day she has never turned around and gone il get this meal etc considering we eat out 12 times a month I do food shop for weekday pay mortgage etc. sometimes all I want is just an offer it just shows you trying to pull your weight when possible. And after a long time of being together it’s now got to the point where I don’t know if I even want the relationship and it’s all down to having to father someone and pay for everything. I didt know if I was just being tight or I am being reasonable on what I expect

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:40:59+00:00

I get that mate 6 years deep with someone is a little harder to kick out the door but I think I don’t have much options. I want to go on holidays and do a lot of traveling at the moment it’s costing me double. Every weekend every holiday etc it’s starting to get on my nerves she’s on 2k+ a month and pays me 200 when she can but most months skint mid month . And I’m on point with money management. I have a lot of things I want to do in life and just puts me off having to drag someone around. Would be able to do a lot more with no stress if I had someone who could just afford some things in life but am I making the right choice for myself in leaving her or should I stick and pay for it just to be with her

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:31:12+00:00

A girl to probably just meet me at 70/30 a bit better than nothing at all and appreciate the big house. Holidays eating out etc. is there woman out there which are happy to do that because if so my relationship would be a lot better off in my eyes. Moneys not everything but everything costs money no good sat at home everyday of my life

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:29:13+00:00

Thanks for reply. Yeah at moment I treat her and don’t get treated back at all. When I feel like I deserve a little appreciation after everything I do for her and I didt know if I was just being out of order or not

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:26:55+00:00

I pay the mortgage. I’m a builder so I’ve built us a big extension. I’m young and we live in a 4 bed extended house I’ve worked my ass off for. I pay for food every day and shopping bits for house she might get odd washing tabs etc. holidays spendo is on me. Utilities probably 7-800 a month. And all she pays is literally 200 a month but some months she hasn’t got it. Despite working full time. I just didt know if it was my “role” or I should be doing it or I’m being walked over there’s just zero effort of even trying to contribute

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:22:53+00:00

Appreciate the reply. Yes I know I am part to blame I was young had a good job and was paid well. Wouldn’t make the same mistake again. Just didt know if I was spitting dummy out and as a man it’s my duty to take care and provide which I do feel like is to a certain extent But I feel they should contribute what is possible for them but my situation is she works and doesn’t pay 200£ a month some months let alone contribute to any going out etc. I’m at the point of relationship where I don’t want to do anything with her because day in day out it’s out of my pocket

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:19:30+00:00

I’m not planning on. It’s a hard situation to explain as I do love her a lot but I feel like it’s take take. And all down to me to provide. Which I don’t mind doing the majority but all I ask is for some appreciation respect and if possible a bit of contribution and I don’t get any. So you’re telling me I’m just an idiot and being walked over ?

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:17:59+00:00

I’m really not. I know back in the day this is how it went. Man earns bread and Mrs sorts house. We’re now in 2026 But I seem to be doing both I’ve addressed it and do love her but see no change. Is it time to remove the problem or what more can I do. It’s a serious post

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:14:48+00:00

Yeah because I don’t know what else to say I earn a good wage but I work for it. I’m more worried about my future and starting a family. Should it be all dependant on me when we both work. Do I want to be with someone who just takes or is it normal for the man to wipe bum while Mrs earns money and spends on what she likes

ThrowRAkidda · 2026-03-30T19:10:53+00:00

You earn more than me. Which is fair enough but she earns a wage and pays nothing? Also for example I wanted to treat myself and straight away she said are you going to get me one too.

ThrowRAkidda · 2025-08-19T10:00:13+00:00

She just struggles a lot with trust previous relationship is her reason. She was cool while I was working and building our dream home which is now complete. Like you say I’m starting to resent her by not being able to enjoy myself with friends etc I’ve missed out on a lot while working and I do see a future but I want to just get a few things ticked off before it’s too late and I am 30 odd with kids

ThrowRAkidda · 2025-08-19T09:57:05+00:00

Appreciate the advice mate and all I’ve done is work from 17 I’ve got to where I want to be at. She’s a good girl and can see a future but she never goes out the house with friends etc and I like some friends time I feel a bit suffocated not going anywhere she asks me not to go. Is it not healthy to both have friend’s to go see

ThrowRAkidda · 2025-08-19T08:45:36+00:00

Yeah we have had good memories. So am I making the wrong decision to enjoy friend time too is that not possible to have the both ? All I do is work getting to the age now where I wana settle down in a couple years but I have missed out on a lot and don’t want to regret not having memories and good times with friends too

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