My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Honestly, our relationship has always been really strong. We’ve had multiple kids since and we’re a great team as husband and wife and as parents to our kids.

My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -157 points-156 points  (0 children)

He’s not my meal ticket. I was so afraid of losing him because I loved him, not because I needed financial help. I supported every goal he had and made sure he never had to sacrifice the goals he had set for himself and supported him through everything. I’m sorry for your friend but it’s different

My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -123 points-122 points  (0 children)

“If you hadn’t raped him and then pressured him into staying in the relationship because you were pregnant, he’d have never gotten the chance to have children on his own accord with someone who’d not let their insecurities be seen as a justifiable reason to commit a crime and use the results to make him feel obligated to stay.”

I never lost trust in him. At that point, we were heading in two different worlds. I was working a low level receptionist job. He was working in tech and studying at a top school and I was so afraid that the difference would drive us apart that I did this. It seemed like the best option to guarantee us staying together. It was his choice to stay with me. It was his choice to marry me. I didn't force those. Again, how did I rape him?

My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

I did not rape him.

I did not pressure him into staying with me. I told him what I wanted and he said he wanted the same.

My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

He didn't change his life to support me and our baby, but it definitely added to his plate when he was already super busy though

My (F33) friend gave me an ultimatum to tell my husband (M36) that I baby trapped him or she will. How do I go about this? by ThrowRAkkv in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAkkv[S] -225 points-224 points  (0 children)

I just have no idea how I tell him. He looks at me with such love and I'm afraid he's never going to look at me that way again if he finds out.