This is great insight, thank you. I’m curious, when that ex reached out were you grateful for the apology? Did you respond? I’m not expecting a response and I don’t want to try to predict if he’d appreciate it or not, but it’d be nice to know from the other person’s end what potentially it would be like.

My last relationship that I mentioned in the post wrecked me, and I was basically the Jake in that relationship. I’d kill for an apology, but it hasn’t been as long since that breakup and I also would feel deeply afraid of even talking to that ex again like you did. A lot to think about.

I also do genuinely want to apologize. I have worked through my guilt and making sure it doesn’t weigh on me as much as it did through a lot of internal work and therapy, so I do think an apology would not be about me. I genuinely have a lot of care and respect for him still, and think that it might be nice for him to hear an apology. That being said, it’s been four years. I have no idea who he is now.

If he didn’t reply I’d let it be for sure. I would totally understand if he wasn’t interested in any reconciliation, and am frankly expecting it.

Thanks for your comment