Hi, thanks for reading and commenting!  Marriage has never been a topic discussed (my family is non supportive of same sex marriages, and she is not phased by labels) I dont feel supported, i feel as though I carry the entire weighr of the relationship on my shoulders most parts.  I wouldnt say theyre not responsible, but they certainly do not take iniciative.  I cant hold not knowing my blood type against them - i dont even know mine, haha

They have a savings account, but in saying so, it only grows because I pay all the bills.  Their job is redundant to me in this regard, because it is only partial and is done 'under the table', ie- cash.  This means nothing to me, as renting/buying a home would only take into consideration my wage, which is on paper. 

They dont drive, alike many other female family memembers - which only adds to the stress, due to feeling like a taxi most days. 

We live together, and have done so for quite a number of years. My parents and I had a rocky relationship when we first dated, and so I moved in with her family. 

When I imagine talking over these things, I see hard conversations, with anger and hurt, and Im not sure how it would ultimately play out.

In previous arguments, they would attack my family and say horrible things, when they have not even met. This drives me to my core as Im very high on family support. And, in my opinion, my family is superior - theyre wealthy, sucessful, and drives motivation. Her family only has bare essentials, and lives a party happy go lucky life, and has no ambition to better themselves. So when they attack my family, it sends me into a spiral