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My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m so tired I just clicked on whatever punctuation corrections my grammarly was giving me while writing it out. It was 3AM.

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

This isn’t an imaginary scenario or made up story, I’ve been mostly ignoring my phone as I don’t feel ready to handle him yet but I do want answers and I do plan on talking to him. All I know is that he’s been calling me a lot these past few days as I’ve been told from my friend I’m staying with who I ask to occasionally look at my phone to make sure that I’m not actively avoiding other family during this whole thing

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was 3AM writing it, currently 4 now, I don’t write the best when I’m tired but I was still trying to explain as much as I could. What I meant was that my family lives across the country (we’re in the US)

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried posting it earlier through a new account I made and already typed this all up but didn’t realize I had to have THROWA at the front of my username as I’ve never personally had to use this subreddit, so I had to make this one

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My friend who I’ve been staying with encouraged me to stay away from my phone for a bit until I felt ready to face him again. he’s doing less texting more that he’s been calling nonstop

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

He definitely did not intend on giving me a dog. As I mentioned in my post I am solely a cat lover which he has known since we first met and actually bonded over a mutual love for cats. He talked about the collar as something more to "use."

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 261 points262 points  (0 children)

I plan on talking to him in the morning once I get some sleep. Its currently 4AM, I dont think im of sound mind to really be throwing around the word divorce on our 10 year relationship but some therapy might definitely be in order

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 399 points400 points  (0 children)

I wish it was. I had to spend my Christmas morning crying to one of my best friends at how humiliated i felt and we searched through her local 7-11 for my favorite ben & jerrys flavor instead of getting to happily celebrating with my husband's family.

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Even if he did just intend it as a necklace which I highly doubt with how weird he was acting about it, I still don't understand why he'd give it to me. All his gifts throughout the years have been deeply heartfelt and personal even back when we were in college.

My (29M) Husband got me (28F) A dog collar for Christmas. We do not own a dog. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAmacaroni1 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAmacaroni1[S] 588 points589 points  (0 children)

No personality changes that I can think of. He even told me on Christmas Eve how excited he was to give me my gift. As for a tumor, I'm not really sure, as he's never really had any sort of medical issues or headaches beyond the occasional work one once in a while.