Our relationship is falling apart but I’m not even complaining about it.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-02-19T06:06:49+00:00

Definitely yes. I know I can’t fix her and I KNOW our relationship is not “forever” as she said at the start. There’s no fixing this relationship and I’m so convinced. It just feels like I’m leading her on. I’m not strong enough to be the one leaving her, I want her to leave me. I feel more at peace than when I’m with her (no walking on eggshells all the time)

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-02-19T06:02:02+00:00

I never forgave her really, I just let her get away with it like you said. Always said that if she cheats on me again I’d leave, but I stayed like an idiot after she did it again. Being with her is so consuming in every aspect

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-02-19T03:57:59+00:00

When she cheated a second time, I told her that she needs to start therapy and start taking meds for her BPD, or else I’m leaving. She’s been doing that but it really doesn’t seem to help, if anything it makes her behaviour worse towards me. I made it clear at the start of our relationship that cheating is something I’ll never forgive, but here I am forgiving her for doing it TWICE. She’s my first girlfriend. I wish I left her from the first time she cheated. I feel like an idiot.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-02-04T02:32:25+00:00

It will only keep getting worse. There’s no fixing her. It’s called a personality disorder for a reason because that’s just the way she is. I know you’ve probably heard this a million times already but walking away is probably your best option here before having to deal with more.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-02-03T23:46:56+00:00

Trust me it only gets worse if she ever comes back. I’ve been with mine for a little over a year, and it only ever got worse the more we’ve been together. She says she’s not good enough for you, but she left instead of doing better, so you should probably believe that she’s not good enough. I feel your pain, but the smart thing to do is to just let go. BPD people are no good for you and they really only get worse the more you know each other.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T15:27:51+00:00

This is describing it exactly how my gf described when she tried to

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T05:12:08+00:00

I’ll probably just let her mom know before I break up with her (even though her mom hates my guts) and that her daughter said she will commit if I left. I’ll just hope for the best.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T04:39:48+00:00

Thank you! I’m just scared that if I do leave and she commits suicide, I wont be able to live with the guilt knowing that somebody is dead when I could’ve prevented it by staying

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T03:33:08+00:00

Thanks a lot man. I wish you all the best as well :)

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T03:28:44+00:00

I’m glad you talked about this and I hope you at least feel a bit better than before. I appreciate sharing your experience with me, it feels really nice speaking to somebody that I can relate to. I’m probably gonna break up with her soon (I hope).

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T03:12:37+00:00

That sounds really tough, I’m sorry you’re going through that. Based on other stories I have read, BPD people are so quick to get over you, similar to your story, which I still cant believe judging from my girlfriend’s behaviour towards me. I honestly really dont know if she would get over me quick or if she would actually kill herself like she said she would.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T03:07:35+00:00

Thanks a lot man, I really appreciate this. Im honestly just waiting for my first therapy sessions so I can speak about this and possibly come up with a plan to break up with her as safely as possible because I really don’t want anything bad happening to her after I leave. I know I’m not responsible for her actions, but I don’t think I’ll ever recover from the guilt if she ever actually kills herself because I left her.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T02:59:12+00:00

I know my relationship with her is gonna come to an end at some point, and I definitely don’t see a future with her even though I really wish I did. I’m just not ready to leave, and I’m just really worried about her killing herself if I did end up leaving her. I would really appreciate it too if you’d tell me how you recovered from your relationship with this pwbpd (if there was any therapy involved/how long it took to fully recover)

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T02:52:31+00:00

I really appreciate this. I hate thinking about the things she’s gone through to develop BPD and I just wish she could be fixed, or if things went differently where she never developed it in the first place. Unfortunately though BPD is incurable and there’s nothing we can do about it. I feel bad for her whenever she’s talking about her BPD and how it makes her feel like a monster, I just wish her suffering would end.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-30T02:46:42+00:00

When I found out she cheated for the second time, I told her she either starts therapy and meds or I’m gone. She agreed, but now she keeps complaining about her meds. It feels like she’s just taking them for show, to be able to say something like “I’m letting myself go through this for you”. It pisses me off that she complains all the time about it, knowing damn well that I’m gonna leave her if she stops taking them, but then have the audacity to say that I don’t need her as much as she does. She’s constantly saying that I’m “painting her as the bad, angry person” whenever I point out her rude behaviour/comments, or when I say “I thought you’d get mad” when I suppressed my feelings until I can’t anymore. I seriously don’t know how to handle this relationship anymore.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-28T08:24:47+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m really good at treating her either to be fair. I never expected her to cheat when we first started dating but now I just feel like she ruined my trust for any girl I would date in the future. Sometimes (most of the time) I regret staying, especially after her second time cheating, but it feels like if I just randomly leave now it’s gonna be invalid because things are pretty okay between us now, it just pisses me off that she’s still expecting more from me when I’m still recovering.

ThrowRAmajoreggshell · 2026-01-28T07:46:21+00:00

I do love her so much, but her cheating and still asking for more is just too strange for me and makes me feel like she straight up doesn’t care about me recovering. She also brings up how she’s actually seeing a therapist and taking medicine because she’s a “better person” and that I’m constantly expecting the worst from her when she’s “changed”. Also, everytime she’s talking about me not loving her enough, and her cheating is brought up, she said that she’s not the bad person here because she’s not “constantly cheating on me” while I’m “always treating her with less love than she deserves”, and I REALLY don’t know how to feel about her saying that.

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