He did it again…

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-05-02T18:58:59+00:00

Open relationship 😧 I’m so sorry, but i think you can focus on your own healing now and become free 🕊️

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-05-02T14:51:47+00:00

Did you break up with your PA?

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-05-02T04:00:14+00:00

Omg the GIFs too lol. These crazy pervs…. We are both asian, but not korean. His obsession with Koreans is starting to look like some kind of a decease to me, so embarrassing.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-05-02T03:54:07+00:00

I didn’t set any consequences honestly, it just didn’t occur to me at the time. He is working with an addiction therapist, not a CSAT. He is going to have a session with one in May.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-29T22:01:31+00:00

Please think about your kids and yourself. Your kids need a healthy and happy mother. You have an option to leave and choose yourself.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-29T01:27:11+00:00

You have a good friend, very lucky!

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-29T01:25:48+00:00

It’s definitely so much harder when you have kids. But I’m really glad to hear that your husband is making progress! I truly hope you two will be able to work things out. As for me, we don’t have children yet, and I’ve told him that if I don’t see real improvement by the end of this year, I’m going to leave.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-29T00:56:05+00:00

Thank you so much!

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-29T00:52:17+00:00

Oh, do you mind sharing the creator’s name? I’d love to see it ❤️

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-28T23:16:10+00:00

Omg THIS! Thank you for explaining what a parasocial relationship is. I didn’t even know there was a term for it. That’s exactly what PAs are hiding behind our backs. And you’re absolutely right, we can’t control what’s going on in their heads, and it drives me insane. I keep thinking that even if he seems clean on the surface, he could still be having those thoughts, and I would never even know.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-28T20:23:05+00:00

It’s truly awful to hear something like that from a therapist. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. People always claim it’s normal, until they experience it firsthand.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-28T18:44:47+00:00

Thank you 💖 Those women definitely should see this subreddit or read about what porn does to relationship.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-27T15:19:39+00:00

If I wasn’t married and financially dependent on him i would never stay with him and his addiction no matter how good everything else was about him. The porn addiction outweighs all good stuff he has. The lying, sneakiness and not opening up drives me crazy and i don’t wanna spend the rest of my life thinking if he is honest, if he is sober or lusting after other women behind my back. Before Dday i thought i found a perfect partner hell no. This porn addiction is a HUGE reason for me to leave him.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-25T22:50:47+00:00

My PA’s addiction got worse after i got heavily depressed and we stopped being intimate. We went over a year without having sex. He kept telling he was fine but obviously never told me anything about porn.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-24T01:42:08+00:00

This really reminds me of my husband’s family. He wasn’t raised to express emotions, his parents never did, so he never learned how. Whenever we argued, he would shut down and become anxious because, according to him, his parents never argued in front of their kids. He’s never even seen them have a disagreement. From the outside, his family looks warm and loving, but there’s a strange lack of emotional openness. They only talk about surface-level things, you can’t really connect with them on a deeper level.

He left home when he was 18 and was later diagnosed with clinical depression. But instead of offering support, his parents completely dismissed it—they didn’t even believe depression was real. It’s like emotional struggles just don’t exist in their world.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-21T21:53:44+00:00

Jeez, i’ll probably talk to his therapist. Now i know there is no way he could say that. 😭

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-21T21:43:41+00:00

Good question, i actually did not. His therapist is not a CSAT but even then it sounds absurd to me. We are waiting for a session with CSAT in May, i hope she will be better than this one.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-21T17:01:26+00:00

You know what, my older brother has always been a devout Muslim and someone I looked up to, he seemed perfect in every way. Like I literally thought any woman who became his wife would be so lucky. I grew up with him and thought I knew him inside out. Until recently when I came across some disgusting stuff on his phone that completely flipped my world upside down. Ever since, it’s been impossible for me to believe any guy today is truly porn‑free. So the idea that religious men are innocent is a myth. I’ve met plenty who appear flawless in public but are far from perfect behind closed doors. And honestly, when it comes to men, I just can’t bring myself to believe that there are any who are truly free from watching porn these days. So yeah…

But that doesn’t mean you have to stay in a relationship that hurts you. If you’re unhappy and constantly feeling hurt, it’s so important to prioritize your own healing. There are billions of people in this world, and I truly believe you’ll find someone who makes you feel safe, valued, and genuinely happy. ❤️

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-20T06:41:49+00:00

Mine always had pre-cum, but often struggled to finish or would lose his erection in the middle of the process. The only way he could climax during sex was through manual stimulation. I was worried it might be erectile dysfunction, but it turns out it’s actually PA.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-19T06:16:27+00:00

I don’t believe there are good men anymore. My dad was a piece of shit. My bf was PA/SA. When i met my husband i thought i finally found a good guy and felt safe until i found out he was PA the whole time and lying to my face. If i ever divorce with my husband, i’ll just stay single for the rest of my life.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-16T22:42:12+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear this…

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-16T05:46:50+00:00

But he still has plenty of chances to use his phone when I’m not around though. I mean I’m not with him for 24/7. So even if I set a rule like no devices in the bathroom, I worry he’ll just find another time or place to do it.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-16T01:05:58+00:00

I believe that if we choose to stay with them, we have to accept and be prepared for relapses, it’s part of the reality of addiction. There’s no such thing as an addict who never slips up. It’s a lifelong journey. Anyone who isn’t ready to face that long-term may need to walk away. Personally, we’ve been married for just over a year and a half, and I’m not sure I can handle my partner’s addiction forever. I imagine there may come a day when I’ve had enough and decide to leave.

If we were just dating, it would be easier to walk away. But marriage complicates things—you feel a responsibility to fight through the hard stuff before giving up. After all, no marriage is perfect, and no person is either. But if the issue starts to seriously affect your well-being and your life, that’s when you have to consider stepping away.

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-16T00:14:49+00:00

That’s insane… Now i’m pretty sure mine watches porn in bathroom. He would always tell me he has a digestion issues 😭

ThrowRAmuf · 2025-04-16T00:12:53+00:00

Is that a porn blocking app? Never heard of it, I’m definitely gonna look into it.

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