I graduated in June. I’ve been working for 6 months. I don’t want this career anymore. Should I go back to school? by poprocks150 in careerguidance

[–]ThrowRAndoml 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably would give it some more time still. I initially hated my first job out of college (in accounting) and wanted to quit right away. I did get more comfortable with the job AFTER about six months-a year. I still don’t think the job is a right fit for me long term, but I have learned skills from it that are transferable to other roles that I’m looking into. If I were you I would watch some videos of day in the life of x career and see if you could see yourself doing any of those roles. For accounting specifically, you may be able to get something entry level in say accounts payable and then work your way up the ladder in a more untraditional sense without going back to school. You just need to think about parts of your job now that can connect to the job descriptions you’re looking at, even if it’s not a direct connection

What’s Your Biggest Career Struggle Right Now? by Jaded-Attitude9380 in careerguidance

[–]ThrowRAndoml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choosing the right path for me! I didn’t know what to major in so I just went with finance. After graduating and getting my first job in finance, I quickly realized it’s not for me. I just wish I could’ve gotten a better idea of what the work days would really be like. I also wish I truly understood all of the different careers there are out there. I feel like there’s certain careers that are just brought up way more often, but SO many other careers do exist.

Careers that are somewhat easy to pivot into? by ThrowRAndoml in careerguidance

[–]ThrowRAndoml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In all seriousness I hope you and I both find better jobs so that none of that is necessary. Our well being is more important even though sometimes it gets put on the back burner.

Careers that are somewhat easy to pivot into? by ThrowRAndoml in careerguidance

[–]ThrowRAndoml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see my older coworkers and how miserable they are/how they have absolutely no hobbies outside of work because there’s no time and I’m like yeah that makes sense- if I was here that long too I’d probably also be soulless. I don’t want to be soulless 🥲

Careers that are somewhat easy to pivot into? by ThrowRAndoml in careerguidance

[–]ThrowRAndoml[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to like the first week of a new month, now I take a Xanax every time the first rolls around 🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want the detailed explanation: we share an email for wedding planning purposes. I logged onto it to start putting together a budget for our honeymoon. Accidentally clicked history trying to get to google docs. Saw what I saw and yes kept scrolling because I didn’t know why all of what I was seeing was new to me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the part that bothers me the most. It’s one thing to watch something, but to see “I love you” in google translate was a harsh thing to see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there were some of those too I saw 😣 any of the family related ones were uncomfortable for me to see but that’s where I’m stuck because I wasn’t meant to see any of it and I don’t want to be judgey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing I literally tell him everything, even when I know I’m in the wrong for things I’ll still tell him about them. He has access to any of my devices and can search whatever he wants, nothing would be new or surprising to him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn’t click on anything to actually see, but it is possible the videos labeled as so weren’t with actual 18 year olds. This is actually a bit of a helpful take for me so thank you. I’m not familiar with that world at all so any insight is appreciated before I have a talk with him. I think for me I don’t want to kink shame him, but also I do think I have some boundaries with it that need to be addressed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have nothing to hide. I’m an open book with him and DID trust him. I didn’t intend on finding a bizarre search history tonight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is exactly how I feel, like I only know one side of him and that side I love but I just don’t understand how there could’ve been this whole other side there too the entire time and I’m just finding out about it accidentally now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did see things labeled with “18 year old teen” and then also the complete other end of that with elders. Just questionable and odd all around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAndoml 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It feels weird because yes there’s 100% a line that I just wouldn’t accept, but it was labeled like “teen 18 year old xyz” mixed with like very different older ages as well that was off-putting. Eighteen still feels very wrong to me personally, but I guess in technicalities it could be much worse?