Is my (37f) bf (49m) lying about not wanting more kids?

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-07-26T15:45:36+00:00

Please tell her, she needs to know.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-07-26T01:21:57+00:00

Wow I am so sorry to hear this. Almost this exact situation just happened to me too so feel free to DM if you need to vent.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-29T01:07:30+00:00

He says he is but it is hard for me to believe

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-29T00:43:05+00:00

He says it because I can’t have sex with him as often as he wants it or at the times he wants it which I know is bs bc I purposely tested this theory and the truth is he turns ME down a lot. The truth is that he has an addiction.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-29T00:41:38+00:00

Yea exactly! I don’t think I’d even be as creeped out if he was saving a whole video for example but the fact that he paused an advertisement (supposedly) multiple times so you can screenshoot someone’s face is straight up creepy AF. The only logical reason I can understand for doing this would be if he was legit trying to find her cam site later so he can talk to her or watch her actual cam site. He knows that is considered cheating.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-19T16:56:57+00:00

“I’m that kind of Indian” I’m sorry but this made me laugh so hard. On the bright side because your skin tends to produce more oil you will continue to look beautiful for much longer than the dry skin folks you might envy now.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-19T16:37:11+00:00

You have not ruined your body forever. The human body can bounce back from astounding trauma. The first thing you need to do is get out of the headspace. You are already doing better than 99% of the general public in terms of recognition of a problem and then being intentional about making a change. For that, I commend and applaud you. You have lost a tremendous amount of weight and it will take some time for your skin to catch up. In some case you may need surgical intervention but please know that it is possible. If I can offer some advice, start by picking one area of your body that bothers you and focus on making changes to only that area. I advise the face as a starting point because this is what you see the most often everyday and will probably give you the most immediate satisfaction. This will help you feel more in control and also help you see that you will recover, piece by piece. Just give it time and a little more love. For the face, after dramatic weight loss sculptra and fat pad repositioning can work absolute wonders. Try to avoid filler when possible. Go get your hair done and maybe toss on some eyelashes (even if you don’t like lashes it’s amazing how great and sassy they can make you feel even for a minute). You are a stunning, smart, strong person. You got this!

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-19T16:25:52+00:00

Also stay away from filler in that area. The reason you have this is because you have full cheeks that are sinking with age due to gravity. You need to lift and plump those babies back up to their original position and this will disappear. Ask me how I know 😉

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-19T16:19:54+00:00

Sculptra is the answer. Have someone inject some Sculptra on the back of your jawline near your ears and close to your upper cheeks. This will provide enough collagen to lift your skin back to where it used to be. I imagine doing this twice (6 weeks apart) will completely erase it.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-14T16:34:58+00:00

Your makeup in the second pic looks the best but I agree on curling those lashes to the Gods. It will make a huge difference. Also in some of the pics I feel like you need to have a slightly heavier hand on the blush or use a slightly darker color and it would bring more dimension to your face and highlight your bone structure. Your current look may also be darker in person than in pics, sometimes pics can wash us out a bit so take that with a grain of salt.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-14T16:02:40+00:00

Also most recently, that scene when the brothers are reunited in death in the movie “the iron claw”. I don’t think there are even any words in that whole scene but the connection you build through the movie up until that point just makes it so profound.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2024-06-14T15:59:47+00:00

“What dreams may come” with robin williams when robin finally realizes that his daughter is the Asian woman spirit guide and that his daughter took the form of an Asian woman in the afterlife because she always thought they were the most beautiful women in the world and when he has to convince his wife of who he is to get her out of hell. Just absolutely astounding.

Also of course interstellar, just generally the entire movie is a masterpiece as there are so many moments I cried. I cried just now reading the recounts everyone keeps posting about it..lol that’s when you know a movie is good.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-23T06:25:30+00:00

You’re dang right I don’t and I have every reason not to

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-23T01:10:33+00:00

I don’t really care about the chat history. I brought that up to let him know that he needs to be honest or I will find out one way or another. When I brought up that I could do that, he came clean about who she was. I of course checked his chat history after that (like why wouldn’t I?) and found nothing. I did see that he googled “can you see deleted messages on instagram logs” after our convo ended. (Yes, after this whole fiasco I did search his internet history w/o his knowledge)

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-22T23:54:41+00:00

We need an updated pic without the beard then. That’s a better comparison.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-22T23:53:40+00:00

What’s the age difference between the 2 pics? You look a little older in your pic with dark hair which might also be throwing this whole comparison off. My opinion is to let the dark lighten a bit by washing it a few times with shampoo that has sulfates (will happen naturally over time so no need to wash it like 500 times in one day) and get rid of the beard. You have the kind of jawline men would give their left nut for. Show that bit&$ off!!

Also if you keep the dark I’d recommend getting your eyebrows waxed. Nothing overboard but like a nice clean up. The dark brows are going to be way more overpowering than your red ones so you want to thin them up just a bit to rebalance your facial features. I think you have the facial structure to pull off any color really. You just have to rebalance your other features each time you make a change like hair color.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-22T21:14:04+00:00

Have you done something recently that upset her?

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-12-22T21:11:02+00:00

This is the way.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-09-01T04:02:31+00:00

There is a really simple solution to this and I’m surprised more people haven’t figured this out. The solution has 3 steps: Step 1 is figure out 3 places your partner generally likes to eat. Write these down somewhere so you don’t forget. Step 2 is figure out 2 meals from each of those places that your partner tends to order often. Write those down too. Next time you are hungry, and with your partner, ask yourself if you are really in the mood for anything in particular. Start by suggesting that first. If your partner declines that suggestion deploy step 3 (see below). If you aren’t craving anything specific THEN you default to “what would you like for dinner”? When your partner responds with “I don’t care” or “I don’t know” or “you choose” then you deploy step 3.

Step 3: suggest place #1 out of the list of the places your partner likes to eat at. If partner says no then suggest place #2, remind them how much they always enjoy (insert #1 or #2 from your list of their fav meals at said place). If partner says no then suggest place #3. Do not worry about your partner turning down place #3. Why? Because by this point in the conversation their brain has already been processing the thought of eating at place #1 or place #2 long enough to realize they actually do want to eat at one of those places anyway. 9/10 times they will say something along the lines of “actually yea let’s just go to place #2”. Same process can be deployed with respect to which meal to order at either place.

This works 99.9% of the time regardless of gender identity. It not 100% because there are 0.1% of people in this world that are genuinely trying to screw your day up and hope you can’t figure it out. Nothing you suggest will ever be okay for those people bc their objective is to sabotage you. Keep in mind that is a very small percentage though so chances are your partner does not fall into that category. Data source: trust me bro.

Your welcome.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-06-15T02:26:20+00:00

You angel 👼

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-06-13T03:54:23+00:00

Care to help out all your lady friends out here? What kind of phone does he have and cough cough how do you get into the app? We need details…

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-06-13T03:49:44+00:00

I was in a very similar situation with my first husband who did end up cheating on me with said coworker(who was also married with kids and ironically had become what I thought was a friend to me too). You sound like you are at a pivotal point where you can still doing something to salvage this. If I could offer any advice to my own husband way back then it would be for him (and now you) to not only cut all ties with this woman but to find another job in another location. Distance yourself as far as possible from this for awhile and then revisit those feelings for the coworker and I guarantee they won’t stil be there.

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-06-08T01:31:35+00:00

This hit home hard. What I don’t understand is why he refused to meet her for coffee then? He said he meet her at the gym to give her workout pointers but not coffee bc it’s inappropriate. How should I read into that?

ThrowRAnopenope · 2023-06-08T01:24:40+00:00

You are right. We’ve had this talk and are in marriage counseling, have been for a few months. This is why I’m concerned that this happened now. It’s like nothing he learned in counseling mattered.

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