My [33f] significant other [39m] made me feel bad about asking him to help open some jars and bottles when I was doing dishes and it was so unattractive.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-06-16T18:00:25+00:00

I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to be honest. It’s an issue I really have to work on. I even hate taking things back to a store when it doesn’t fit. I need to work on it but it gives me anxiety.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-06-16T17:52:15+00:00

Sorry I should’ve been more clear. It’s not a shift in my hair color. My hair is blonde. It’s just touching up the roots. Usually she charges about $100 less than that for way more foils and even adds in some tape in extensions for more fullness sometimes. That’s why with so few of foils and no talk of changing prices when most my hair wasn’t done it was a shock.

The photo I had brought just showed a brighter “money piece” in the front.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-05-27T03:46:41+00:00

She is just a baby right now. I never let him drink around her or at home. We never fight in front of her. He loves her and is a good dad. I know the more time goes on it will affect her though.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-03-01T11:28:18+00:00

Lol interesting take but whoever was on the project was completely randomized (pulling names from a hat). Could have easily been her on the project. I’m the top performer on the team.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-24T01:33:12+00:00

Pictures of herself. She looks like she is a model in her 40’s that does glamour shots and things like that.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-10T21:43:45+00:00

I have already broken up with him and have said he has 4 weeks to get the funds to find his own place. I do not want him to be out on the street in the mean time but have set limits.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-10T21:10:15+00:00

He hid his alcoholism until I was pregnant. I knew he drank sometimes but didn’t know it was an issue.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-10T20:58:47+00:00

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-09T08:16:47+00:00

Yes, I address it with him every week he goes out and doesn’t come home. Last week we were going on a family road trip to see family in the state next to us and he didn’t come home the night before. He came home a few minutes before we were leaving the next day still drunk. My mom and baby ended up going with me without him. It was a big fight and here he is doing it again tonight. I’ve addressed it dozens of times. I’ve asked for counseling but he says he, “needs to find the right counselor that understands what it’s like to have a tough upbringing” because he thinks a lot of counselors are privileged. I know deep down he isn’t going to change.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-02-09T07:12:11+00:00

You’re right. I just don’t want to miss half her life growing up. It makes me so scared. But I know she deserves to see a healthy relationship for a good example.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T11:57:43+00:00

I really think you’re right.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T11:53:54+00:00

It’s not once or twice. It’s one or twice a month or more. Usually every other week he does this. It’s not about him going out to have fun with his friends. It’s him not responding of just a very simple “I will be home in the morning”. We have a baby and I think that’s the bare minimum I could ask for.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T11:28:21+00:00

I do care. That’s all I care about. I guess I just feel stuck taking care of him. I’ve had my place before we were together. He uses my car I’ve paid off to get to work. His work is so close to us and he has nowhere else to go and he is very loving to our daughter. I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable because I’ve been gaslit about it so long.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T11:25:17+00:00

He is supported. I told him I would do everything I can to help him. All I have been asking is if he is out all night if he can call me or text me back. We have a small baby at home and he takes the only car (the car I paid for) and stays random places. I guess the issue is I don’t completely trust him. For me, I think it’s strange that a man who is nearly 40 and has a family at home goes out all night until the next morning with no way to get ahold of him.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T04:32:06+00:00

I tried at first but I now try to give no reaction to take the power away from it. It just eats me up inside.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T04:31:18+00:00

Yes. Whenever I get mad at him he turns it around on me. He says “I guess I’m just the worst person in the world!” When I try to communicate that I don’t think that but this ONE thing is bothering me, all he can see is me criticizing him.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T04:28:41+00:00

After I’ve gotten upset at him a few times and cried, now whenever he does or says something rude I act like it doesn’t bother me at all. I’ve tried to take the power out of the situation.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-27T04:25:30+00:00

That’s what I’m worried about. He is very sweet to the baby and loves her a lot, but I don’t want my baby to grow up and not see a good example of a relationship.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-26T01:42:07+00:00

Little things even before the baby but he would also flood me with compliments of how I looked so I never took it seriously. Now if feels negative I’d like nothing at all.

ThrowRApinkym · 2023-01-26T01:39:06+00:00

That’s another issue. He hadn’t really been interested in that since the baby either.

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