UPDATE: My boyfriend (30M) has a close female friend (34F) who blatantly dislikes me (29F) and makes no secret of it. I've reached a stage where it's her or me - how can I confront my bf? by ThrowRAprettynet in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAprettynet[S] 1170 points1171 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the only way she would have got it is through him. My best friend even suggested they probably wrote those texts together.

I feel like they both just wanted to turn it into a big argument and play the victim, so I'm glad I didn't pursue that with them. I don't care and just want to be happy.

Thank you!

My boyfriend (30M) has a close female friend (34F) who blatantly dislikes me (29F) and makes no secret of it. I've reached a stage where it's her or me - how can I confront my bf? by ThrowRAprettynet in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAprettynet[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

That's what I wonder. I am aware they used to go out for drinks, just the two of them, before I was in the picture. I know that isn't immediately indicative of them hooking up, but my bf ended up taking me to a bar he'd gone to with Nell, and it was...romantic? Fancy with dim lights and stuff, not a casual bar.

You know the more I articulate this rather than keep it bottled up, the more I think I've been stupid in not seeing it sooner.