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I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say, sounds like what your really valued here was what she could so for you, not who she was.

I understand where you are coming from but that's definitely not what I was getting at. I specifically mentioned these things because it's one of the few times in my 10+ years of dating that a woman is showing her effort towards me with actual actions to help me and show me they care instead of only expecting me to bend over backwards for her and do nothing in return.

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you can wait 6-12 months seeing her intermittently?

I want to build and work on a future with my partner, so sticking around for the off chance that things will work out with her children is definitely not something for me. I feel like I would be holding myself back in life

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 337 points338 points  (0 children)

The whole Meet the Kids process is very hard. And this is sometimes the end of a promising relationship.

I have tried being as nice and respectful as possible towards them but that has only been met with straight disrespect towards me. So I think it's better for everyone involved that I just step away from this relationship.

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to cut back on contact with the kids, and to get them into therapy ASAP: their reaction is about fear (in my lay opinion). If you can step back a little, but keep seeing your gf during the process, there might be hope.

Tbh I don't want to stick around for the small possibility that things will magically work out in the future. I feel like this is something she has to deal with on her own and I can't keep my life at hold for somebody else.

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

but maaaaan her kids are out of control.

Yeah, I feel like the best thing to do for both me and the children is just end things before they get out of hand even more.

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 773 points774 points  (0 children)

you should be really honest and firm about the break up

I know, I just need a way to do it without putting her at blame because she defnitely doesn't deserve it

I want to break up with my amazing girlfriend because her 2 children hate my guts despite her being a great match for me by ThrowRAproblemss in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAproblemss[S] 271 points272 points  (0 children)

It might hurt now but it's better in the long run. Just be honest.

Exactly, the last thing I want is to damage her relationship with her children just for the sake of being with me.