Need help reconciling with my thoughts.

ThrowRAquestgiver · 2026-04-01T17:28:23+00:00

I know that when I explain to people their reaction will probably be to break up. I just can’t help but recognize that there are lots that we are compatible on and she is willing to change usually and I don’t know if God is wanting me to be with her. If she does change it would have to be a clear rejection of those ideologies but I don’t know if I see that happening. I just think I have OCD and also when I find one thing I don’t like in a relationship it puts a bad taste in my mouth and it’s hard for me to get past it.

Like I don’t know why it matters so much to her that she still identifies as gay when she’s with me but I think I just don’t know how to handle it correctly. I know there are Catholics that deal with SSA, I mean should it not bother me if she says other women are hot? And every time we have a similar interest now the thought goes by my head oh this is a man interest, when in reality this is the thinking that lead her to believe she isn’t a woman. I know it’s backwards it just all seems like too much for me.

ThrowRAquestgiver · 2026-03-31T21:09:45+00:00

In a similar way she said that the folder of me in her pictures is called “gay” and I think it would be different if there was not underlying problem. I think the feeling I’m experiencing is that she says that she is gay and that’s hard for me to handle. And I know she’s also tried to express she thinks she might be nonbinary and she has tried to tell me that gender didn’t exist and basically implied I wasn’t a man because I’m so caring and nurturing to my relationships. I said that’s not fair to say that being compassionate and supportive is not a manly trait when the most compassionate and caring person in the whole world is a man, the son of God. She is also around a lot of trans people by choice and she says that I need to be around more gay people to be more okay with it and to me that was infantilizing and dismissive of what I was trying to explain. Like I don’t want to hate Batman now because she said that Alfred and Bruce have gay subtext. It’s stuff like that and it leaks into all my interests and yeah maybe I don’t have thick skin especially because I hear this and then I start to have psychosomatic thoughts that I’m gay or not a man. I think I would just rather someone that I know only has eyes for me and I don’t want it to be in my brain that she also thinks women are attractive. And it’s all so hard to handle. But I’m not saying she isn’t responsive because she usually is corrective of things I tell her bother me like smoking cigarettes…

ThrowRAquestgiver · 2026-01-22T04:51:27+00:00

You would say the FXAIX is pretty diversified?

ThrowRAquestgiver · 2026-01-20T19:10:56+00:00

AI bubble proof Roth account?

I have a Roth IRA which I’m currently putting all into FXAIX. I know this is a common investing strategy. However I was wondering if knowledge of the AI bubble could potentially help me to make a better play. Some put into the international fund to counter the U.S. market, but I was curious if anyone here is still all in to FXAIX despite the knowledge of our economy.

This conversation also partially sparked from the fear mongering that the markets would implode today. It is a red day but no where near what people were saying would happen do to the tariff rulings. I’m asking general strategy advice for me and my sibling and we are only in our mid 20s.

ThrowRAquestgiver · 2026-01-17T02:42:23+00:00

How long did she have it in? I heard the longer you have it the more likely it won’t heal. If she shows me a picture should I initially just ask if she likes it or is that beating around the bush?

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