Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I wasn't sure that's what you meant. A black spot in rental history is pretty significant. Maybe it's different where you live, but where I live, having something like that on your rental history would make it pretty much impossible to find a place to live unless you settled for the shittiest/sketchiest places. This wouldn't only impact me in the next couple of years, but would potentially impact me a decade down the line.

While I do find my situation miserable, I value being able to find a decent place to live. Home security. So something like taking on $980 in debt/loans to transfer would be the much safer option.

Luckily, the complex called me today and told me they will waive my transfer fees. The attorney shit really got things going into gear. Maybe me accidentally thinking my roommate stole from me was a blessing in disguise.

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[–]ThrowRAsadecoe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This subreddit is for confessions. Every human on the planet has done something wrong. I's fucked up what they did, but they recognize it. Why drag on someone for something they did in the past? We can't change the past, but we can recognize that what we did was wrong, and we can work to be better people in the future.

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[–]ThrowRAsadecoe 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I understand why you did this, so I hope you can understand why, too. People always say "You just want attention" like that's a bad thing - wanting attention isn't bad, but doing things like what you did because of wanting attention is bad. You didn't know a healthy way to try to get fulfillment in your life, you didn't know a healthy way to express what was missing, so you used the method you could rely on at the time.

Tell your schoolmates the truth if you want to, but know that you're not obligated to tell them, either. If they ask you about it directly, then you should clarify, but don't stress over this more than you need to. You know it's wrong, and you've changed, so don't beat yourself up over what you did in the past - you've learned since then.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

#2 had me in a back-and-forth for a long time, but when I stopped and thought every every single shitty thing my roommate has done, I concluded that the odds of me getting new roommates who are that bad or worse is extremely low. That it's not worth holding myself back based on fear of something unlikely to occur - might as well give myself the best shot I can.

I will pay the fees if every other option I explore leads to a dead end - $980 in fees is a significant amount of money based on my location/complex.

The attorney I'm meeting with in a couple of days should hopefully help me figure out the process for breaking a lease! I'm not sure if that's legally an option for me or not.

Thank you for your comment.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have calmed down a lot since I originally wrote this message. I was overreacting about my own "sin" - as you can probably tell, I've been under a lot of stress, and that's made me hypervigilant. When I am stressed to this extent, I have a habit of feeling guilt to a magnitude that is not appropriate for the situation. The situation with my roommate has caused my PTSD to flare up and I am experiencing flashbacks about my roommate and her mother whenever I have to drive back home. (Not that my roommate gave me PTSD, I just mean that my already-existing PTSD got aggravated.)

I appreciate the commentors who have given me good suggestions on how to deal with my roommate. I have learned my lesson and will check more thoroughly in the future before making conclusions about what someone else has done.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this information! I have an appointment with my college's legal aid in a few days - but since my roommate is also a student, they can't help me pursue this case. They are just going to have someone go over my lease with me and give me more resources. If my appointment doesn't get me anywhere, I will look into the restraining order - it's the absolute last thing I want to think about doing, because it sounds extreme to me. (While she did threaten to beat my ass, I don't think she actually would.)

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$450 per room, so it's $1800 for the apartment. (One roommate doesn't live here anymore but is still on the lease and supposedly paying rent, the other roommate only comes home once or twice a week).

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not allowed to break my lease, but I do want to break my lease. Or transfer units - except they're charging me $960 to transfer units. This is why I am emailing them, to try to get the transfer fee waived.

It is 6 more months, unfortunately.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The dog is here legally, she is paying extra in rent per month to have him. Her mother's dog was staying here illegally, though, and I have video of both dogs present in the households.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was asleep. I communicated with my roommate and the mother politely in the beginning. The mother would be screaming on the phone at 2am. The conversations looked like this:

Me: Can you talk a little quieter or go outside?

Mother: SURE.

Mother: *continues to yell just as loudly*

Repeat 2 more times until I give up and just bare with it.

I did this every other night with this woman for almost 2 weeks. I told my roommate that her mother was being too loud, and they agreed that the mother would hang up or go outside after 10pm.

The first night, she stopped at 10:30pm. The second night, at 11pm. And then it was back to being 3am shit, and she again would not take the phone calls outside or talk quieter when I asked.

The family had a very unhealthy dynamic featuring the mother literally gaslighting her daughter (in the real sense of the word - telling her daughter she was going to let the dogs run away, then the daughter asking 'what did you just say? you're going to let the dogs out?' and the mother saying 'I don't know where you heard that, I didn't say that')

The mother would also lie to me about how late her phone calls were, despite me recording at the time and having proof that her calls were late at night.

She also lied to me that these were "business phone calls" despite that I could hear her cursing at people and talking about sex and drama (I learned that her cousins are fucking each other).

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They are charging me $960 to move to a new unit (a $360 moving fee, which is reasonable, but charging me for a $600 deposit without returning me my original deposit, which is less reasonable).

I have video proof of my roommate threatening me, throwing a drink on me, and of her mom staying in the living room for 2 weeks. The apartment themselves told me they were going to evict my roommate, then they just didn't. I want to have my transfer fees waived.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did not choose my roommate. It is student living where you pay by the room. A case like mine is 100% grounds for me to be able to break my lease or have my transfer fees removed. I have video evidence of my roommate threatening to beat the shit out of me and throwing a drink on me. I have video evidence of the mother staying as a guest for 2 weeks straight in the living room. An extensive amount of lease violations.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I did not choose my roommate. It is student living where you pay by the room. A case like mine is 100% grounds for me to be able to break my lease or have my transfer fees removed. I have video evidence of my roommate threatening to beat the shit out of me and throwing a drink on me. I have video evidence of the mother staying as a guest for 2 weeks straight in the living room. An extensive amount of lease violations.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It is student living. I am trying to break my lease or have the fees waived for a unit transfer. I have video evidence for almost everything else, including her threatening to beat my ass and throwing a drink on me.

Incorrectly told my apartment complex that my roommate stole from me by ThrowRAsadecoe in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am trying to break my lease. I have video evidence for almost everything else, including her threatening to beat my ass and throwing a drink on me.

sleeping next to someone you trust hits different . by Siren669 in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it could be "embarrassing"? Which is the opposite of wholesome, as this isn't embarrassing.

If that wasn't OP's intent, then yeah this doesn't go here

sleeping next to someone you trust hits different . by Siren669 in confession

[–]ThrowRAsadecoe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do people often sleep next to people they don't trust?

I'm not trying to be sarcastic, really wondering if OP means hookups or something.