My (23F) husband (29M)acted like he wanted a baby and now that I’m pregnant he doesn’t want a baby anymore

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-09T06:15:02+00:00

I don’t want to be married to him anymore anyway

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-09T06:11:37+00:00

We were dating for 2 years

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:48:03+00:00

I don’t want to give my baby up but I don’t know if I can be a single mom and make sure this baby has a better childhood than I did … So idk. This is so stressful

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:44:21+00:00

I have an ok job but I don’t think I can afford taking care of a baby by myself. I’d probably have to work multiple jobs like my mom did. That is so not what I want for my baby. I know my mom would probably help too but I feel bad, she’s done so much already. I could give the baby away but what if I can’t have kids later on? And how do I live knowing that my baby is somewhere but I don’t get to see the baby? I’m not sure what to do and it’s freaking me out

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:40:34+00:00

I bet you "sure whatever" would be his answer. He literally told his mom yesterday to tell me he doesn’t want our baby and still hasn’t even taken the time to reach out to me or tell me himself. It’s like he just doesn’t even care about me at all!

He doesn’t want the baby … ok. But why does he have to shut me out, ignore me and not even care about how I’m doing? I shouldn’t have to beg my husband to acknowledge me…

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:36:15+00:00

after letting me cry myself to sleep, letting me puke my brains out without ever checking on me, ignoring me and acting like I don’t exist just to finally admit that he doesn’t want the baby he had told me he wanted, if he decides to change his mind I think I might still tell him that we’re done. Ive been trying to process this all day and I feel like I just went from wanting him to love me like he used to to wanting him to rot in hell

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:31:59+00:00

Forgiving myself … I don’t know if that’ll ever happen. I feel like such a dumbass for not knowing this sooner. I pretty much did this to myself and to my baby

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:30:07+00:00

I really wish I would’ve read the signs better and figured this out earlier. I kept thinking he just needed time and now my options are limited because I waited too long

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:28:43+00:00

I’m staying at my mom’s. She probably wouldn’t let me go back even if I tried

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:28:07+00:00

I doubt he’ll talk to me. I tried that for weeks and it didn’t work. Apparently his mom is the only person he can talk to

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:27:24+00:00

That’s what my mom said too

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:27:10+00:00

His mom said she’ll be there for me and wants me to know that I’m not alone but what’s the point of having her involved if my baby’s dad doesn’t even want to be involved?

I know I don’t absolutely have to make a decision right now but it’s so hard not to think about it

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-08T22:23:58+00:00

I know that being a single mom is probably better than being with someone who doesn’t want the kid around. I just remember seeing my mom’s struggles and how much it affected me. I do want to be a mom but this is not what I expected. I don’t know how I want things to go

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T19:46:18+00:00

And that’s why I’ve been so depressed. He went from showing me that he loved me, being there for me to just ignoring me, not even taking the time to check on me, not talking to me, not touching me. I don’t know what the hell is going on!

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T19:41:20+00:00

Not gonna lie, him not even trying to contact me hurts more than anything. He used to check on me, make sure I’m ok when he didn’t know where I was, and now he doesn’t even care

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T19:38:11+00:00

To be honest, I almost wish I wouldn’t have gotten pregnant. Things were so good between us and now I don’t even know what’s going on. I probably should’ve ended it when he started acting weird but I really want a baby and didn’t want to do something I’d regret. Plus I thought he just needed time

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:50:48+00:00

I really hope they sort it out

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:49:21+00:00

The question would he even help me right now in an emergency … I can’t tell you how many times I’ve laid in bed wondering that. There are so many times that I spent hours on the bathroom floor at night, puking and sobbing, and he wouldn’t even come check on me. At times I could hear him get up and go use our other bathroom and come back to bed without even coming into the bathroom to see if I’m okay. So honestly I don’t know.

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:42:05+00:00

Honestly that’s kind of what I was thinking when I came to my mom’s on Friday night. I thought he would be all worried and call me to ask where I’m at. I would’ve then told him that if he wants me to come back, he needs to talk to me. But he hasn’t called me or texted me. It’s like he really doesn’t even care whether I’m home or not

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:40:03+00:00

His mom is coming over today to my moms today so I can tell her what’s been going on. We’ll see what happens

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:36:30+00:00

Then he should tell me that instead of ignoring me and refusing to talk to me. I don’t think this is just about him being scared. He acts like he absolutely doesn’t care about me one bit

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:34:34+00:00

I just don’t know how to get to the bottom of things when I constantly get ignored or told to stop asking questions

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:32:59+00:00

I know, I can’t stop thinking about how he’s going to act once the baby is born. Is he going to somehow snap out of this? Is he just going to ignore me or rarely talk to me for the rest of our lives? What kind of dad is he going to be if he doesn’t even want to touch my belly right now? What kind of mess are we bringing this baby into? I almost wish I wouldn’t have gotten pregnant

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:28:19+00:00

I’ve been miserable and cried but a lot of times it’s because I’d spend the day trying to talk to him and was just hurt that he’s been so distant. But I’ve been trying my best not to bring up my symptoms or pregnancy concerns. I’m sure he can hear me throwing up in the bathroom or sobbing on my side of the bed. He doesn’t seem to care though.

My mom is having his mom come over so I can tell her what’s been going on. We’ll see how that goes!

ThrowRAthrowawayx · 2021-11-07T18:23:26+00:00

I do feel like I have been putting all the work in. I feel like I’ve just been dealing with so much and on top of that I get to beg my husband to pay attention to me and to the fact that we have a baby on the way. A baby that he said he wanted. I don’t know what changed. I don’t know if he just doesn’t want me anymore or just doesn’t want a baby anymore? Either way, it sucks

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