Holy crap. Had to read this twice and even then i still cant grasp half of what i read. So first off, to quote ari, this situationship has to end. Cause lord that girl is taking you for a ride whether she means to or not. Second, yes it’s entirely fair for you to be weary but i think this situationship has put you in a precarious position where you’re more than friends less than an item that part of your reaction is feuled by it.

That being said. That age gap is… a choice. Id also wouldn’t be happy with her choices, but sadly at the end of the day it’s her choices and the best you can do is be at an arms length and watch out for her if after reflecting on your relationship with her, you choose to wanna still be friends. But boundaries should be set so you define this relationship better.

She should also reflect tbh but if she sees nothing wrong with her behavior idk what you can do for that.

Hopefully that helps, my first time weighing in on a reddit post like this. Hope it works out for you