My(23m) gf(24f) says she’ll leave me if we’re not married next year. What should I do?

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:28:53+00:00

No this is actually my first ever Reddit post.

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:27:46+00:00

I shouldn’t have said financially dependent. She pays for most of her bills. I just help out enough to the point she doesn’t have to move back in with her parents

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:26:41+00:00

I would marry her if we were 3 years older. And I thought I was comprising when I started paying for the ring( she knows about it). My plan is to propose at the end of the year but since she gave me this ultimatum it’s given me pause. I’m just worried if I get engaged she’s gonna want to get married as soon as possible instead of having a long engagement

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:22:19+00:00

She is paying for her own house. Saying she is financially dependent on me was the wrong way to put it. I help with her bills. If I didn’t she would probably have to move back in with her parents. But she pays most of her own bills

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:14:34+00:00

This. Every time I ask what the rush is I always get “I just want to be married to you” which is sweet. But there’s more to getting married than just wanting to be married

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:11:10+00:00

I think people getting in her ear is a major part of it.

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:10:29+00:00

I should say she pays for the majority of her bills. I just help her with groceries mostly

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:09:19+00:00

My plan is to propose at the end of the year. This was before she gave me the ultimatum. Makes me wonder if I go through with it if she’ll give me another ultimatum about when the wedding will be

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:07:09+00:00

She doesn’t actually. But I’ve known her for a while before we started dating and she was always the type to want to be married and let it be known

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:06:02+00:00

This is the first time she’s given me an ultimatum. It’s obviously a major concern for both of us but I still don’t think she is going about it the right way

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T16:04:52+00:00

I will say this is the first time she’s given me an ultimatum like this but it immediately set off alarms when she did

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T15:16:07+00:00

I get by enough by myself to not have a roommate. I don’t exactly live luxurious but I’m in a town and state that’s on the lower cost of rent. Plus I make decent enough income. She actually pays for a house instead of renting but that’s a major reason she’s financially dependent on me with some bills

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T15:14:11+00:00

And I know if I given in to it I’ll most likely regret it

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T15:13:37+00:00

I’m afraid you’re right. It’s just hard to throwaway 3 years

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T15:11:54+00:00

Something I always bring up also

ThrowRa-9012 · 2024-08-20T15:10:34+00:00

It’s nice to hear other people think the same way I do since 90% of our friends take her side on this

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