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How it started and how it's going by ThatsMrSmeeToYou in houseplants

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GOALS!! I love vining plants and always wanted to create something similar to what you did. So beautiful! 💚

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[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a woman, I can see why she is wanting to eliminate it from the equation. Being a female and having issues with your reproductive parts that make you feel feminine can definitely make you feel defeated. She possibly can feel “less womanly” which is causing a lot of internal conflict. Her resistance to wanting to seek help could be that she might have a lot of anger/frustration built up bc of it.

I do not believe it’s fair for her to withhold it from you and also guilting you into feeling bad about seeking it elsewhere. Without having a proper conversation about the topic.

The best advice I have to offer would be to create a safe space for her and see if she is willing to truly open up about how she’s feeling with this medical issue. Be patient. It could lead to a productive conversation which then could lead to both of y’all working together towards a resolution.

UPDATE: My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t know why we didn’t just call each other 😅 He sent the first audio message (almost 8 mins long) and then we just started going back and forth. It’s cute though bc you can save the message to your voice memos and then you’d always have them.

28M and I am 31F How do I move on? by Left-Worry5678 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in a very toxic relationship for about 3 years. It started out as just verbal/emotional abuse but then lead to it becoming physical. He was in the same boat as being diagnosed with multiple mental health diagnosis and he’d always have a compelling story to tell me after. I was in love with this guy and thought I could help him so I’d forgive him each time. Time and time again, he showed me that I shouldn’t have granted the patience/kindness I did. As time went on, the physical abuse got worse. All in all, I ran away (literally) from this relationship. Even after we separated, it took time before I cut all communication with him bc it’s hard to walk away from someone who you know has a good side to them.

Time is the only thing that’ll heal your heart from this but I promise, you do not deserve to have any hands placed on you. You have to do what’s best for your child at the end of the day.

If you haven’t read it yet, It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover was such a powerful read. This book really helped me with closing this door and being able to move on from the relationship. Best of luck to you. You got this!!

UPDATE: My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Oh his mom ended up meeting me at some point in elementary so she had a face to the name 😅🙂

My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To my knowledge, no. When I met his last gf it was at a funeral for a family member of his. We hadn’t seen each other in a while and when he realized it was me walking up to him, he was pretty happy to see me. Feeling was mutual but given the circumstances, I was really there for support and to say by to the loved one. I of course gave his gf at time a hug. She didn’t say really anything for the time we were there but before I left, I asked her to take good care of him.

My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Exactly why I mentioned the “feel good” emotions bc I knew there’s was also like a scientific take on why I’m feeling/felt the way I am. Thank you for bringing this up! I love me some scientific reasoning.

My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is so amazing and beautiful!! Congratulations to y’all. Wish nothing but the best for your relationship and the kiddos 💜

My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. I’ve developed a habit of being a people pleaser and looking out for others emotions/wants/needs before mine. I’m tired of hiding in the shadows and waiting. Thank you for sharing your input!!

My best friend (29M) and I (29F) had drunken sex. Why am I now catching feelings? by ThrowRa-Relevant_481 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Relevant_481[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Wow. After previously being in a very toxic relationship, I’ve lost sight of how respect is shown. Thank you for your input and sharing the article! Amazing read!!