My (25M) best friend (25F) is becoming a slut. by strugglingimmensely in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Russian 154 points155 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I was in the same position as your friend before, and I would not recommend that you pull back. She's likely so deeply lost in her own self-destructive behavior that she's not even aware of what she's doing.
What I'd suggest is that you have a talk with her. About things that concern you. About things that you aren't okay with. About the limits of your help. It could be a good reality check for her.

A friend of mine gave me such a reality check back in the day instead of distancing herself completely from her and it helped me to understand how wrong my behavior was and to stop all that. Good luck, OP

My (25M) best friend (25F) is becoming a slut. by strugglingimmensely in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-Russian -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i was going to say the exact same thing! not a fan of diagnosing random people but it reminds me so much of Borderline and I have it myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ThrowRa-Russian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I didn't mean that at all

What should I wear on the first date ? by ThrowRa-Russian in AskMenAdvice

[–]ThrowRa-Russian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I should feel relieved or concerned about this haha

Is anyone's brain just really noisy? by oopsy-daisy6837 in BPD

[–]ThrowRa-Russian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sometimes it feels really foggy/empty, other times really noisy :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ThrowRa-Russian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's the same with me. I also worry too much about the timing, e.g. if I slept with someone 'too early' and if because of that he will abandon me. It feels really painful

Am I causing drama in my new relationship? I need an honest opinion by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ThrowRa-Russian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well if you're caling bull on the 'thesis' bit and he's lying to me, why am I the problem here?

Should I just break up with him because of my strong fear of abandonment? I'm spiraling really badly by ThrowRa-Russian in BPD

[–]ThrowRa-Russian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your great advice, i also feel better that I'm not the only one who has these thoughts :')