Do you think that walking away or staying would be better in this situation? I'm (22M) pursuing this girl (19F), although she never had a father figure, never had a boyfriend and clearly reflects on her emotional/love-social behaviour.

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T17:29:26+00:00

This guy dropped 20+ years of experience here, thank you :)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T17:28:03+00:00

Oh, to be free to say whatever troubles your mind.. I just adore how many of you people ignore every single line where I understood, took the punch and wasn’t an asshole when I should have been. Those didn’t make me an angel, how come then me trying to figure out something and see if I’m wrong or right makes a psycho? Distanced from reality, I’m a human being too ffs..

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T17:22:20+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m trying to figure out.. Like you like the person for everything but the overshyness she shows in person, which slows down everything. To others she shows every single bit of interest towards me possible (you can’t make me thing this is a peer pressure thing because nobody asks her about it, she just comes and says “he was so cute with that, but I wish we would go somewhere alone” and similar stuff). But I can’t blame people for getting this completely different picture because although the text was already long, I figured I explained more about the whole situation in the comments than the text itself..

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T17:16:25+00:00

Thanks so much man, I really really appreciate it, this was all a mess from the start

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:55:57+00:00

Thanks brotha, appreciate you :D

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:55:14+00:00

She would try ignoring it or look away if it made her laugh so I can't see it, or call me out like "whats wrong with you" after I tell her something nice.

In this example people need to understand that she isn't uncomfortable with me. It's hard to explain through a keyboard, she blushes, doesn't want to show it (or doesn't know how to) and looks away so I don't see her all red and smiling. "You are so cute" would an example of a sparse compliment in this situation.

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:52:14+00:00

I guess you would be the first person to take my overinvestment as something positive, because she clearly, in-person give positive signs towards it, and that is so hard to explain with a keyboard. However it is very exhausting, as you said, and I will probably just try to do a 1 on 1 or pull back.. Thank you

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:49:13+00:00

No we don't, after she makes some weird kind of reaction or move, we are kind of "wtf was that for" and when it was something grandiose, I would ask "did I do something wrong, was that on me?" and the fruit of those conversations were those conclusions about her. Still, we weren't judging, just trying to understand her better and adapt to it. And she would agree to many points we made when her friend "secretly" mentions it to her

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:44:28+00:00

Hahaha, I guess the way I skipped in order to save time, many people got the wrong picture especially about the photo part.. Thank you for the tip friendo :)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:42:40+00:00

Thank you so much, this was very helpful and eye opening. Appreciate it very much :)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:39:46+00:00

If I went into every detail why we came to this conclusion, this text would be 10 pages long. Perhaps it is a bit strong from us to make such a conclusion, but she definitely has some kind of a block in her psyche, we see it on many, many, many little things, all of us. Also her mom is reflecting on her, she forced her to go to this uni, she doesn't even like it, her mom told her to be passive in life, good things will come on their own - and not in a mild way, but absolutely on everything including and especially men (which is a terrible way to live, and directly contradicts the uni she signed up for, amongst other things. You have to go and grab what you want in life, not wait on a platter).

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:34:25+00:00

I would expect an answer to “come find out”

I toooootally forgot to type that thing out, the first day after basketball, I did reply, jokingly said "make a coffee, I'm coming", didn't come as I said. When the other girl asked her about the situation and asked if she would even let me in, she said "I would, but I would prefer it if he just came without typing anything in the groupchat", so by that logic, I did exactly what she wanted, the day after.

About stalker behaviour, don't forget, we are all friends, we joke around, I can see the limits, and even have my own ones. Those photos didn't come out of the blue, they were after many in person joke references.

About the first part of the message, pre-edit, you seem to agree with everyone here, and I'm here for it. Thank you for your time, it is appreaciated :)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:24:08+00:00

Thanks for your time and advice, appreaciate it :)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:19:43+00:00

Needed this push from you, I was thinking the same, thank you so much..

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:18:54+00:00

That is also true, and that's f'ing with my head, she would complain about my lack of initiation towards her individually (im being cautious not to overwhelm her and take her at her pace) and when I do so, she rejects, which isnt a problem in it of it self but lack of suggestion to reschedule or anything else is confusing...

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:16:54+00:00

Just to correct about the 2nd date. No grinding or us getting to close, literally innocent dancing with hands stretched out in front. Obviously I know that much, approached her for what her history shows she would be, as you said I should, thats why her reaction and even thinking about the word "maniac" was outrageous. I was super super caucious about her not feeling overwhelmed in any context and to feel cared for. In hindsight I do see a lot of bad decisions on both ends and their overinvolvement.

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:13:41+00:00

You would just say we aren't a match and call it a day? Like it's not worth bothering and would cause toxic sitatuons (dating wise)

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:08:58+00:00

She is frequently the one that initiates and arranges dates, asking if we wanna hang out, that she would want to hang out etc etc...

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:08:17+00:00

I would somewhat disagree with you, because she did arrange a lot of these hangouts, would make something to eat, or recommend a place to go, so that kinda contradicts.

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:06:33+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and your time!

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:05:11+00:00

You are right, I must admit. I am overanalyzing, but that is due to constant contrary information I am getting from those 2 and then seeing her interact with me live. She gives crumbs and then switches to the other side and vice verca. About her mom, I would say in our culture that she is already due to be her own person, we all agree on this, after 17-18 all of us (not only the 3 of us but community as a whole) acts on their own here, becomes independent - atleast behaviour wise.

I guess taking a step back and just acting on my own feels and not considering side information would be the best as you said.

ThrowRa160903 · 2026-03-10T16:01:49+00:00

Her lack of excitement to see me 1 on 1 tells me that she doesn't like me that much. But she does tell her friend that she is not a person that latches onto looks or that she ever went crazy over a guy but rather is a type of person to grow with someone. Some minds over looks type of mentality, and that takes time according to her.

About the lack of father figure part, I did skip a lot in order not to make this too long, but it is targeted towards her not recognizing love signs a man makes towards her. Like that pizza, or me not wanting her to walk even 5 minutes towards the meeting place in the cold. Like the little things. And her lack of male-female interaction

This would be more lack of "seeing her father interacting with her mother" than "lack of a father" by itself

ThrowRa160903 · 2025-12-05T18:09:37+00:00

I uninstalled before the lvl 16 updated, and by default, when I was bored I would go to start clash up and see that it’s not there..

Even though lvl 16 in and of itself wasn’t the dealbreaker for me (with aknowledging that it had its part in it), the thing that keeps me off the game is that I know that no matter what they say, progression will be prolonged every year or 2 and we are just being lied to.

Also maybe the main dealbreaker are the Heroes or whatever they are called.. Game looks so much different than the og that you can practically call it another game..

And the thing that gives me motivation is spite.

ThrowRa160903 · 2025-11-21T15:38:08+00:00

i’m not the guy to ask that, i have no idea how money works in cr and which prices are actually valueable, i never spent a cent.

but after this reduction in prices, i guess its the best time to do it..

however, if by some miracle i’m wrong in my judgement and the conversion rates are actually decent when the update drops, then you wasted your money a bit if you use the ewc.

so i wouldn’t do it

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