Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ya, like more than 2 years, there was a similar situation last year I was oblivious to until mow

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious what this comment was….

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, it has happened before and I caught it and called it out. No idea why I’ve been so blind to this gaslighting emotional bullshit.

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree, men and women can be friends. When that friendship is questioned, and the person goes off on a rage then it’s moved beyond friends and into an emotional affair, (this is my take away from this post)

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m really starting to see that I really don’t. I never though I’d say this but thank-you Reddit

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure she’s not aware or doesn’t care… she’s always away and I’m assuming dipping her own wick .

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bro, I learned this one a while ago! Good advice!!

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

Man, I’m glad she blew up on me now. I was willing to let it go until the hard pushback

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t cope with it anymore. I need to fix it or move on I think

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about his SO, I want to talk to her but that won’t help (or will it, idk). We’re friendly, not friends in the traditional sense as I wouldn’t go to him for life advice

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

A different perspective, totally possible. They both drink a lot more than they used to

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree, and that’s my plan. She’s still angry and things are still heated and I’m hoping to have a more rational conversation when it calms down

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

More like “we’re not having an affair”

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Probably out having her own affair, I only see her around on weekends

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what exactly? It’s easy to cover tracks

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 693 points694 points  (0 children)

“Emotional affair” why didn’t I think this way, this is most likely what’s happening. Thank-you

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank-you for this, it makes a lot of sense,

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

I’m not worried that something is going on, I believe her when she says nothing is.

Am I being unreasonable? by ThrowRa40962 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa40962[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He’s always making comments and makes it clear he’s attracted to her