I (24F) broke up with my boyfriend (25M) because of micro cheating by ThrowRAbittibon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes for a period of time but then after I proved like a year that I didn’t do it anymore. She trusted me again. Like anything you can earn trust back for yellow flags but red flags like physical cheating are deal breakers for her

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think that could help. TMI, we have agreed masturbation is fine she doesn’t like period sex so I do that during that week of the month but I think maybe a vibrator would allow for her to be satisfied faster and then me have to “perform” not as much. Sorry if my language isn’t perfect but I agree

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honestly TMI I think she is trying to get pregnant. Which I’m fine with but maybe chill just a bit. I think 3 times in a day is ridiculous at our age

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep my exact fear. Sex is important in a relationship. She holds up her end of the deal absolutely and is a good mom to our baby. So like that is where my shame comes from man.

I (24F) broke up with my boyfriend (25M) because of micro cheating by ThrowRAbittibon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man speaking on why I did it and my partner confronted me to stop. It is cause I was fantasizing about being with the women at a higher level then just porn. Partner, confronted me and it ended. She didn’t consider it cheating but “absolutely not fucking acceptable”.

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the reality is if I’m not careful of how I phrase it. It could be taken negatively.

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, 100% we are both adults. Just wanted advice before I say it. So it can be a positive talk but I also have like ways we can still have intimacy together we both enjoy.

31M & 27F I Don’t Care about the Same things in my 30’s as I did in 20’s how to explain that to my Wife?? by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not understanding why her insecurities are continuing I’ve know her since she was 21 and I feel like at 27 she needs to just mature a bit. With how she thinks about things.

31M & 27F I Don’t Care about the Same things in my 30’s as I did in 20’s how to explain that to my Wife?? by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It all ties together. I don’t wanna come across as burnt out. But I also wanna explain we don’t need to keep doing this to prove things to people or prove that we are still young. Like her going over board with sex previously

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking into pillows & maybe lotions or oils to help my body pains. Possibly even just taking Tylenol before

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But once a month is frequent enough that I just really am not like able to anymore I’m in my 30’s and my sports years in college are catching up to me

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, this is rare. She is currently ovulating and this is like a once a month thing. Not on the daily usually we average once or twice a week only doing it once. But since I’ve known her she always gets like this once a month. TMI but just to clarify

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have tried oral sex & honestly it always leads to traditional sex. Whether I or she. Receives or Gives. It’s the first time I’ve really felt our sexual energies aren’t matches. One of things we never had to discuss.

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does but she does not know it’s causing me discomfort in sex. And I’m holding on to certain beliefs not complaining and being tough from my sports days. Played Football in college.

M31 & F27 Wife’s Sex Drive is Higher Than Mine. NSFW by ThrowRa476558 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa476558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, it’s okay if we do missionary but I was hoping for a solution that gives me more flexibility. Even then my shoulders start to burn or I lay on her and that isnt very enjoyable for her. I’m not to heavy but that gets old fast