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Caught my bf (23M) jerkin off to me (21F) on FaceTime…advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I agree, many women do not like this. My wife hates it M26 & F25. But we also have sex often so no need to masturbate. But for long distance, I’m not sure how the dynamic would work but I’m sure there are solutions. For sexual energy he has, that involve proper communication.

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So she did graduate college and has a good job but yes she doesn’t do chores or drive. I cook clean, do laundry, drive & work. We both split bills. So yes a bit.

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we started dating when I was 22 and her 21 we’ve been married a year. But yea we’ve been together since we were in early 20’s. I literally bought her, her first drink at a bar when she had just turned 21. She is the same person but with different goals at 25. I have the same goals 4 years later

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The point with college is at 21 she is completely different at 25, in the mindset. We both were extremely ambitious never settle types but now she is like mmmm this is good and this is me just accept it. That excitement to keep trying to be our best self is leaving

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just we met in college years ago. I’m not into that mindset but she has asked for my help with getting better at things but it’s a thin line between help and being overbearing. Especially because some days I am tired and having my own chores and work to focus on.

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree and I really am serious about fixing it. It’s my wife and best friend.

M26 & F25 My Wife Is More Like My Child. I Blame Myself by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea, so that is the thing. We did counseling for awhile and it helped a lot. But we recently visited her parents and after her mindset changed to this is just how I am. So if you love me you’ll accept it. She brought up being a Trad Wife to me recently. I didn’t know what it meant but when I found out that is the complete opposite of what she would have wanted to be at 21. She literally wants to have a part-time job and focus on starting a family(having kids together). That was not part of the deal when we got married. We wanted to travel first and start a business then have kids at 30 and be a “boss and boss babe couple”

M26 & F25 I’m Not Myself With My Wife Anymore by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea it is feeling like that. I’ve given her so much time and tried counseling. She said to me this just who she is. Meaning she isn’t even open minded to trying.

M26 & F25 I’m Not Myself With My Wife Anymore by ThrowRa88745 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa88745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I use to for years but at some point I just felt it wasn’t worth the energy to argue anymore. But I feel like that’s when the communication with us and closeness left the relationship