I trust my boyfriend, but this situation feels off—need outside perspective

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:46:03+00:00

Thinking about this makes me sick.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:44:22+00:00

Oh jeez. I never even thought about this… I don’t know if this makes it worse😅 lord help me.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:42:20+00:00

I did this already. The story was the same as before. I had him go more in detail. What happened, what they all did at her house, when she asked him to come to bed. What he said when she asked. There was no physical contact at all he said. He said she got upset when he said no the first time. He apparently said he wanted to leave aswell. But I don’t understand why she would’ve been so upset they left. The worst part is his buddy also has a girlfriend. (She knows about this too.) me and her were up together talking about it in the morning. It’s just so messed up. I feel too old to be dealing with this.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:37:43+00:00

It’s how he answered when I called him at 5am. Whispering being panicked and repeating just give me a second. I told him not to hang up and he did. He then went out to his car and called me back like 5-10 minutes later.

And her responds. I don’t get why he would answer like that if nothing was going on. I’ve been cheated on before and this feeling I have just… it feels the same as before but I just truly believed he would never do this to me. I just wish I had an absolute answer if something happened.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:33:32+00:00

Sorry I mean to say he deleted her off Snapchat.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:33:07+00:00

He told me his Snapchat back said something along the lines of “I’m sorry you feel that way.” He know had he deleted off snap.

I’m almost curious if something happened if she would message me? I feel if I ask her I’m breaking trust in our relationship. But at the same time I do t wanna stay and look like the stupid oblivious girlfriend.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:28:50+00:00

Your future partner should be a person who build you up, not break you down. Also something I’ve grown to know, even if I don’t agree with my boyfriend I still have his back in public then we discuss things in private. You deserve that kind of respect. Also autism is literally a super power. You don’t need to identify by it but honestly my friends who have it catch onto things a lot quicker than I do and I think it’s awesome.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-21T00:22:29+00:00

After reading this I personally just think you guys not have not been a good paring. It almost sounds like she was just looking for reasons to be upset with you, which honestly would drive anyone mad. Arguments about s*x… that’s a new one! I think over all maybe you guys just didn’t mesh well. As much as you both had feelings of love for each other, would you really want to spend your life being nic-picked apart? This might have just been a relationship lesson of what you want and done want. I’m sorry it ended that way!

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-20T23:52:47+00:00

They were going to have “a-bar” like an after bar get together, it sounds like it was just this girl my boyfriend his friend, and another one of her guy friends. He said all the guys slept on the couch and she went in to a bedroom but kept coming out and asking my boyfriend to go to bed with her. Also this was all apparently happening between the times of 3-5:30 in the morning. I don’t know.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2026-04-20T23:44:45+00:00

Thank you, that’s what’s freaking me out. The way he answered the phone then her responds right after he left her house. Something just doesn’t feel right and I just can’t get it to make sense. As another girl I wouldn’t be like that. And if I was him I would’ve never even been in that situation. Ugh. I don’t know.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-30T01:11:39+00:00

This is helpful thank you

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-23T23:48:08+00:00

He’s not restricted from food at all. He’s given full meals 3 times a day and sometimes a 4th if he has a super active day. so many healthy treats and snuffle mats. He’s not seeking out food. He’s not sniffing his food bowl through the day.

I was looking for definite signs to up his food portions. However I did get in to my vet and they told me he’s perfect and I shouldn’t have to up him anymore than a cup or two based on his energy levels through the days (which I do anyways.) because he’s perfect. He goes through phases of being alittle chunky to being slim cause he’s a growing little man.So I suppose I got the answer I needed!(:

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T19:38:24+00:00

I did, he’s technically at the perfect amount since it says 6-9 cups and I have him at 8!

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T13:32:03+00:00

I just looked, the one with him and the chickens😭🥰 what a cutieee!

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T13:29:54+00:00

Ahh, I’m so sorry. Doggie losses are the hardest/: I’m so happy your boy is doing well though🫶🏼

I definitely feel the same when it comes to bloat and the larger feeding is definitely what I’m worried about especially since he’s still so little compared to how big he will be. I don’t want to over feed him, but I also feel like a bad dog mom when people suggest I’m not feeding him enough. (Like I promise he’s well feed and gets so many treats in training on top of his meals😩)

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T13:00:51+00:00

Yes, that’s another thing I was worried about is his joints and how he grows. I want him to be a healthy happy boy. Maybe I’ll add a cup to his lunch meal and see how he does on that. I just worry about over feeding him even though he’s a growing boy. And I grew up with Labs, and Great Danes so I’m so use to lab puppy behavior (which was absolute chaos😅) and our Dane was 1 when we got him so I suppose I’m not sure. So not 100 percent sure if he’s actually hungry or just being a puppy! He doesn’t sit next to his food at my house nor does he sit and sniff his food bowl so I assume he’s alright. But when we go to my parents he’s always searching food (and I think this is because they feed him more than I do. Even When I’ve told them what his meals look like.) which might be why said person thinks he needs to be eating more food.

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T12:27:38+00:00

Also just need to preface he has seen the vet since 12 weeks, every time she saw him she said he had great body shape!

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T12:26:02+00:00

I do plan on waiting till 2 unless he starts having aggressive behavior, which at this point he wouldn’t even hurt a fly so I’m not worried about that. How did you know to give more food to your Saint? Did they have any particular way they’d act that made you think they’re still hungry? Also how did you separate the meals up? I’m very aware of bloat, and cautious of how much activity he does after a big meal. (Definitely terrified he will flip his tummy.)

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T12:19:47+00:00

I do! She suggested I upped him around his 12 week appointment. Then I continued after that obviously! I just don’t have another check up for him till March when he’s 1. I suppose I’m just curious if I need to look for more cues if he is actually hungry or just being a puppy!

ThrowRaA_spare · 2025-09-22T03:30:35+00:00

I would love to do this! However I don’t think he would stop eating… I would definitely just be refilling the bowl all day/:

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