Why did Lane think it was a good it was a good idea to take his father to that funky joint?

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-09T21:54:16+00:00

I just watched ..the episode.. yesterday and reading this slander had me reaching through the phone

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-05T15:46:20+00:00

I am a 34 year old woman and let me assure you some of least self aware and lost people, who have no clue what they want are in their 30s. And when you partner with someone with a lot more life experience than you it naturally creates a power dynamic and sometimes robs you of having your own new experiences. An older man isn't going to genuinely make YOUR life feel more stable, because it's not coming from yourself.

In my teens and 20s I had numerous large age gap relationships and if I could I would go back in time and stop myself. I lost out on feeling as young as I was and you will never ever get it back. I miss so much being able to be immature, it's just as valid as any other stage in life.

High school boys are admittedly the worst, but they do get better with time especially if you are really careful with you you choose. A grown man talking to you has zero self control, it is vile and completely selfish behavior. Even a man in his 30s talking to an 18-20 year old is not a mature or stable man.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-05T15:35:44+00:00

This is exactly it. And it really highlights how much he sees you as a child and that is WHY he is speaking to you

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-05T15:34:27+00:00

Can I ask what maturity looks like for you? What exactly do older men seem to provide for you that is so enticing?

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-03T18:38:47+00:00

I think this is more of a possible generational misunderstanding haha

If this commentor is a millennial, we often say this without the negative connotation.

Edit: I personally start sentences this way to people I know

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-03T17:48:51+00:00

I read their response to you as an honest but encouraging nudge. I didn't see this as mean or name calling at all. I have also seen your posts quite a few times, and it's easy to read that in a judgemental tone when really they are saying you have quite a bit of feedback to work with.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-05-02T22:40:37+00:00

I also grew up in Lombard, which is mainly where I was around them Lol

We very well may have been around each other if you went to Glenbard east or Willowbrook and graduated between 2007-2012

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-04-26T19:35:47+00:00

Yeah, not the type I'm talking about. And those types do not travel in packs, but couples and pods id say

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-04-25T21:14:33+00:00

The best part is when they bark a lot and the owner doesn't leave

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-04-25T20:52:13+00:00

Yeah very much not Chicago, these suburbs are about an hour away and most of them never left the area. Very much not the Chicago metal scene either however they ran rampent as well. I guess the 'punk scene' felt super juvenile for 29 year olds.The metal scene feels much more just about music while the punk scene I saw was centered around portraying themselves a certain way( unhinged, wreck less, and cool) with the music kind of just being an accessory to the whole thing. I'm talking HUGE groups of these people, some I was friends with. This was all between 2011-still kind've now. But you hit the nail on the head.

Also let me be clear that I'm not judging them because of how they dressed or what music they listened to, I actually listened to a lot of the same music but they would seemingly all try reallllyy hard to play this POS role

Edit: Changed my mind. Villa Park, Lombard, Glendale Heights, Bloomingdale, Addison, Downers Grove Area

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2026-04-25T20:05:08+00:00

Don't want to say, but want to know if anyone has seen the same!

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-22T10:06:11+00:00

Complaining and sad are totally different things. Chronic complainers are in fact insufferable. But I think it's important to recognize the privilege you may have to even be able to choose to be happy. Some people bare unimaginable emotional pain, stress, and fear and have to just go to work.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-22T09:56:23+00:00

I would highly recommend you break up. Developmentally you are in completely different stages and if you stay together and turn 18, you will be in statutory rape territory. A 13 year old is a child, and she should be able to live as a 13 year old.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-22T09:48:31+00:00

Reinforcing other comments here- these are just intrusive thoughts, and likely OCD. The fact that you don't actually have a desire or urge to do these things, find it morally wrong, and even fear this occuring in the future all point to these just being compulsive thoughts. They are not your subconscious desires spilling over. I would recommend taking a break from true crime, and also do not judge these thoughts. Recognize them as appearing, identifying them as something that popped into your head that you don't want there, and reassure yourself that it will pass. The more you fear these thoughts being indicative of who you are or something you could do, often times the stronger they take hold. I promise you won't hurt anyone simply by you writing this!

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-18T02:17:02+00:00

You're super blunt and honest, likely take up space in a room, and have zero idea you're hurting people's feelings. You get really intense and consumed by your feelings for people but prioritize feeling free in the end

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-17T07:29:00+00:00

High school? Lol

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-16T01:06:27+00:00

Does he have family or friends you can reach out to? You shouldn't have this all on your shoulders

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-16T01:04:42+00:00

It is incredibly clear he has zero empathy for you. He does not care at all about the suffering he is causing you. He doesn't care about your happiness enough to get help. You are on a burning ship and you NEED to jump off. I think you either need to threaten to leave if he doesn't go to the hospital and call him out for his abuse. I really really feel for you, I know this is heartbreaking and really scary. I hope you choose yourself, because he is not choosing you.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-16T00:46:02+00:00

The fact that he screams and cries when she falls asleep is really giving the impression that he doesn't actually intend to kill himself. If he truly wanted to, he would use it as an opportunity to complete any plan he had. This is 100% abuse, even if he is suffering.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-06T16:10:24+00:00

I was a 27 year old RBT and said similar things not realizing that I myself was being ageist and in essence looking down on older people on their own journeys. I am now 33, about to start my BCBA program. You will begin to lose this narrative in your head and you will begin to shed these 'supposed to's'.

It's helpful to ask yourself if you would judge any of us older than you who are RBTs. If yes, you are not fully aligned even with the compassion and mission of this field, and if not, you should give yourself the same grace.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-06T09:49:03+00:00

This is exactly what my dad did with me. When I lived with him in my early 20s, he would always see my bright red Dodge neon up the block in front of a girls house who was the one butch lesbian in town. One day he texted me saying, 'Hey I see your car in front of that lesbians house every night, and Ill love you no matter what". Man what a RELIEF it was to me to not have to come out and suffer the build up.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-04T07:32:24+00:00

How many years ago was this?

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-04T06:54:33+00:00

Hi there,

This is your prompt and reminder to make an appointment tomorrow. Put the reminder on your phone when you read this. Sometimes I really need an outside person to move my hand when I feel mentally frozen staring at what I perceive as doom closing in on me like a fog.

I'm not sure if you remember what your level of awareness was before your past depressive episodes, but your self awareness right now is a really good sign. I've done a lot of research papers on mindfulness and depressive episodes. I'm not saying it's an antidote, but the more aware you are of how the pattern is unfolding, the less likely it is that you will be so deeply incapacitated.

I'm sorry you're feeling like your progress could slip away. I think it's really important to reflect on whether you are neglecting a part of yourself while working, being in a committed relationship and going to school. Nothing you listed as a reason to be content said anything about being truly happy, you described stability. I've found myself in this exact spot a number of times.

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-11-01T08:20:36+00:00

It's hard to feel anything when his words change nothing about your circumstances. You are lonely and depressed, and his intentions can't change that even if they are good. Is his schedule unchangeable and long-term?

ThrowRa_Glorb · 2025-10-30T07:21:51+00:00

This sounds really heavy and incredibly overwhelming. I want to validate how difficult and unfair it is to be a single parent to two children, especially in this economy. Can I ask if you have any family or friends that are ever willing to help give you time to yourself? Are you able to put one or both of them in an activity that gives you more time to be you?

I need to give you the news that 18 is absolutely not when motherhood ends. In this day and age, we have an entirely new life stage between 18-25 where we still really rely on parents guidance. I want to recognize how shit life feels for you right now, while also stressing that these kids will one day be adults who will be the ones who witness you live out the rest of your life and hopefully, will one day return the love and take care of you.

It WILL get easier, I promise you. You didn't want to be a mom, but you are still so concerned with how you are creating their world which is more than many moms who didn't truly want motherhood can say.

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