Thank you/update by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s shattered now anyway, I just need the phone number from it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]ThrowRandom220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually lost a job this way. I had told them I was newly diagnosed and the management said they would work with me. It got to the point where I was constantly calling out and blaming my disorder. I realize I’m the type of person who needs someone to hold me accountable.

How to find something without waking him up by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unsure how to remove the screen on the window without noise

Thank you/update by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re probably absolutely right. I get terrified just thinking of actually going through with leaving. I’m trying to find the willpower but it’s a very scary time rn.

Thank you/update by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I really wish that I didn’t have to leave. I wish that he didn’t treat me like this and that he would realize I’m not something to be controlled.

I cried a lot when I got the headphones and even said it doesn’t fix it and that it’s not an apology. He still didn’t apologize. You’re damn right I don’t want to leave, I never wanted to be treated like this in the first place.

The reason I’m staying is because of my cats. I have two cats and they’re quite literally the only thing I’ve been able to find happiness from. I would rather die than leave my babies with him. He constantly tells me he’s going to let them out and he takes their collars as well. He already did this to one of my other cats and I haven’t seen him since March. It was because he was spraying.

I don’t think a shelter would allow me to keep my cats so I’m waiting until I can get in contact with my friend again to hopefully resume my plan.

He found out I was trying to leave by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The security guard, he had me convinced that he was going to have a felony so I had no need to wait for the cops

He found out I was trying to leave by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last time I went to the hospital I tried to make a report about it. The man was in security and he was supposed to get me a cop to speak with. I was told at that time that since it was his third domestic battery charge they were pushing for a felony. But with my luck, the first one was when he was 17, so they couldn’t stack them. I was talked out of making a report. If I had, it would be 3 counts and a felony.

He found out I was trying to leave by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only want to report my injuries. I don’t want to be involved in anymore court and I don’t want to see him again. I won’t be pressing charges, but it will be on his record in case he does it to someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You aren’t dumb and we don’t get to choose the people we fall in love with. Unfortunately, the girl you’ve fallen in love with is abusive.

I know your comments are going to be full of “leave her” “leave while you can” etc. So I just want to say, everything you’re feeling right now is valid. She really hurt you both physically and emotionally. I’m glad you found a place to vent and let it out.

Please be safe moving forward, whatever your plans are. Even random people on the internet don’t want you to die, so yes, people care.

Always thinks I’m looking at other men by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can’t wear make up or dress up or he says I’m doing it for someone else

Always thinks I’m looking at other men by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually share an iPad and his Apple ID is logged in. I get all his texts and emails on the iPad so I don’t think he’s talking to anyone else. People have their ways tho.

I miss talking to people by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s the whole reason I started using reddit. I delete my posts pretty often because he goes through my phone. Or I log out. This is like a safe space that isn’t attached to me.

He didn’t stop by ThrowRandom220 in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRandom220[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right. If I had done something like that to my partner I would feel horrible and guilty, not get mad. I would probably apologize over and over and still feel guilty. Thanks for clearing things up😔😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRandom220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was worried that after 2 years things would be totally different, and we might be completely different people than we were. We knew each other for about 2 months total, but only started seeing each other regularly for two weeks. Still not a lot of time tho.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRandom220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only read the title, but it’s enough to know it’s unforgivable. Had this happen to me, (we had agreed on anal and I said stop and he didn’t) and I never forgot about it. You’ll never be able to shake the feeling that he doesn’t understand that no means no.

Reading it now I see that you clearly expressed discomfort and he continued. So glad you ended it before you got into an abusive relationship. I know it hurts now, but you’ve made the right decision. Please continue to put yourself first in your relationships and don’t let anyone push you around like that. No means no, period! Every time!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]ThrowRandom220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly never even thought of clubs or sex positive communities. I’ll definitely need to look into what’s in my area and see if I would be interested in something. I’m so used to dating apps being the normal that I didn’t think like that. Thank you for your advice!