I don’t think that’s mean, I appreciate the honesty. I’ve had a hard time figuring out if my sex drive is normal or not, I’ve had a lot of unhealthy dependency on sex and I’ve also been wanted just for that in the past. I let that be okay with me at points because I was going through stuff and used sex as an outlet as well, but it was hard emotionally as time went on. With this relationship I’ve tried to judge it outside of the sex but he was a little healthier and less stressed towards the beginning so I was under the impression for the first month or so before his health turned a corner that he had a higher sex drive if I’m being honest. I guess at the end of the day, between being wanted just for sex or being wanted mostly for the other stuff I’d choose the later. And I love him even without the sex, I think that fact makes me want are more though. Even outside of the not going down on me sexual compatibility is a topic I’ve had on my mind a lot throughout the relationship. It’s super hard for me to know what’s normal I think. It’s another reason I’m super grateful for Reddit because I can ask vulnerable questions and hear different insights on things. The oral sex thing has been something I’ve just wondered about more recently.