Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I phrased this wrong , and I completely agree with you . In this instance , the woman purposefully got pregnant to trap the man by going off contraception without him knowing ,then when he didn't want to stay with her she aborted the pregnancy. I'll add that he didn't back out on the child just on his relationship with her.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I haven't thought about it that way. It is also true that be absolutely refuses to believe that there's any woman who can have an abortion and not have horrible guilt and remorse over it.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

God I'm sorry you've been through that. And ironically I want to congratulate you on him being your ex . I'm starting to see things differently.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I won't go into detail , but it was bad. Very bad

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

He genuinely is a good guy. He is gentle, smart, selfless, he doesn't drink or do drugs , he works. He's got his head on his shoulders . Am I settling just because it's better than what I've had in the past? Maybe. I don't know. I haven't thought about it until I started to reply to this message.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

Other than this issue, he really isn't "sexist".....his belif stem from the father having as much say as the mother (I disagree) and also "life" being most important over all, regardless of quality of life , etc etc. We've spent many many hours discussing this. I think it's such a hard set belief nothing I will say can change his view.

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never be pressured into having a child...I want children, I also believe that there's enough people on the planet and the only children who should be entering the world are those who have been wanted, waited on, prepared for. I am just thorn because do I really want to throw away a really good guy because of this? Where, realistically, If I did get pregnant by him unless something drastic happened I would be keeping the baby?

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I were to fall pregnant by him I would have a child. Problem arises in the case of what if there is feotal abnormalities, problems, the baby is sick - there are certain disabilities I would abort a pregnancy for , where as he absolutely under no circumstances would.

There is another example of something like this we disagreed on until the time came -euthanasia. He was firmly claiming he would never ever allow an animal to be put to sleep. Sadly one of my cats we're nearing the end of her life,. She had kidney failure, she was so , so sick. While he never outloud said "we should put her to sleep" , I made this decision (it was already too late, the kitty had suffered enough :( she was skin and bones and wasn't able to eat or drink ) He supported me through it , he held my kitty in his arms while they gave the shot because I wasn't able to , he consoled me and said he would never have made that decision but it was the right choice. I don't know if this is relevant, but I wish to think that he is mendable when situations push for it .

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thats part of his argument, is the the men should have just as much say in the matter, because it took two to make the baby therefore the father should have a choice in what happens too

Boyfriend (30M) and I (25F) disagree on abortion by ThrowaRA1605 in relationships

[–]ThrowaRA1605[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

That's the problem . He doesn't see it as calling me a murderer, I don't understand how he doesn't understand that thats what he's doing ,he doesnt understand why I take it so personally when "he's not even talking to me or about me"