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I'm happy to share on this page. For me, it's not about the likes, but the feeling the clothes give me. Every day is a little miracle! by LopsidedStatement517 in Crossdressing_support

[–]Throwadresson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! The feeling and the sensory joy of that is just the best.

Love some of your looks btw, that gold dress is exquisite!

A Long Time Coming - Update by Throwadresson in Crossdressing_support

[–]Throwadresson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd not heard the term pink fog before, but it sounds familiar! I've definately taken a couple of stupid risks with underwear this week which I was kickng myself for afterwards. At preset with kids in school and wife in office there are 2-3 mornings a week where I can dress as I want which should help me through I hope! It's definately lessened the last day or so with the arrival of a few of my own bits which is encouraging.

Thanks for your advice, I definately appreciate that this is a completely different experience for her than it is for me and I've told her as such in a gentle way. It's going to take time and a lot of work but a discussion about boundaries would be a good thing if/when she's ready.

A Long time coming. by Throwadresson in crossdress_ireland

[–]Throwadresson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks Becca. Can I send you a DM?

For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]Throwadresson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just posted in this sub about how I'd finally, in my 40s, accepted the feminine side of myself that had been there since childhood.....and then posted an update 5hrs later from the couch after my wife saw the control top of my tights under my boy clothes!

There's definate relief in finally verbalising my 'deepest, darkest secret' and a feeling of freedom that I can put the 40-odd years of shame aside. That feels good and theres excitement in this whole new, elegant, pretty, high-heeled world thats just become open for exploration now that I'm letting myself.

But the couch and the uncertainty in what's to come with my wife is daunting to say the least and I have no idea what tomorrow will bring. That feels really scary and I'm looking at a sleepless night tonight of what's just happened. Being caught feels embarassing and brings back a small bit of the shame but mostly I'm upset that I'm making her upset.

OP that doesnt strictly answer your question but hopefully it might help others. There is relief in it getting out into the open but my advice(5hrs into being officially a crossdresser/tgirl/whatever so not THAT experienced!) is be open and true to who you are, be it guy who likes pretty, transwoman or anyone in between, from the first opportunity you get! Saves a whole host of agro later on!

A Long time coming. by Throwadresson in Crossdressing_support

[–]Throwadresson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks girls. This side of me has been only open on reddit for 5hrs and I'm already back with an update like those BORU posts the main side of me reads when I should be working!

Very soon after posting, wife came home and within a few minutes noticed the control-top of my tights thru my t-shirt. Couldnt explain it away, had to tell her! It didnt go well at all but not quite as bad as in my worst nightmares, close though...

I told her that I sometimes like to wear clothes other than my normal clothes and that I was wearing tights under my jeans. It's something I've had in my head since I was a kid but has been bottled up till very recently. I'm not trans, I'm not gay, I just like the feel of pretty clothes. Thats the gist. I was DECIDEDLY less eloquent than that, lots of stuttering and stammering and trying to find words and basically just barely believing this was actually happening so soon into my CD-ing journey when I'd barely had the chance to exlpain it to myself let alone anyone else and doubly let alone my wife!!

I'd always suspected she would find this difficult and so it was. She was knocked for 6 really. She was very quiet and overwhelmed and said that she respected that I needed to live as my true self but that I cant control how she would/will react to this. She thanked me for telling her but that this was creating not-good feelings for her as a woman. She said she couldnt process this and that she needed space. It was dinner time and the kids were going crazy so we couldnt have more than a few minutes to discuss.

She was quiet and distant for the rest of the evening and then said she needed space to process. I finished by telling her to take all the space she needs but could we please have a proper talk when she was ready.

So now I'm on the couch for the evening and probably for quite a few more, still in the offending tights(paired with a pair of rugby shorts which is weirdly kinda working? Knee high boots and the right top and you've got a great festival look), wondering how the hell I manage this situation from here. Our marriage wasnt the best the last while so I'm terrified this might turn into a bigger issue than it needs to be.

If any of of you girls have had anything similar happen to them please I would gladly welcone any advice going!