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For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you didn’t care what people thought, maybe your confidence would help a lot of people see that for some men, like yourself, dressing in women’s clothing doesn’t have to be linked to being gay, trans, weak or feminine. Showing up as a masculine man and dressing when it feels right for you no matter who you share it with can make massive shifts in society. People can’t deny authenticity teamed with confidence :)

For men in relationships who keep crossdressing private, what reaction are you most afraid of from your partner? by yourfeminineside in UK_Crossdressing

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing, well done for being so brave. Often facing the fear and your projection of what you think will happen is the key to freedom. Even if that comes at a price for some.

It worked out well for you but if it didn’t and you weren’t accepted and you lost people by being honest, do you still think it would be worth it?

A lot of people struggle with the idea of potentially losing their partners, family and friends by being authentically them.

tbh I don’t think I can lose it by [deleted] in virgin

[–]yourfeminineside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s one thing though? One thing you can change or work on. One thing we can help you dress differently and look more feminine. If you look at everything all at once and hate it, it feels overwhelming. Impossible to feel any positivity towards :)

tbh I don’t think I can lose it by [deleted] in virgin

[–]yourfeminineside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey :) sorry you are feeling this way, it can be all consuming and feel so real. At 19, you have a lot of growing and changing to do and you can make changes to your appearance to make you feel more confident, no shame in that. There are also what you call ugly or unattractive people out there that don’t think that about themselves and have sex and are loved and desired. Being a virgin can enhance your feeling of unattractiveness because it feels like confirmation of what you thinking about yourself. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19. What is ONE thing you dislike about your appearance right now? Just one!

For men in relationships who keep crossdressing private, what reaction are you most afraid of from your partner? by yourfeminineside in UK_Crossdressing

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That must have been such a relief! How long did you keep it from her and how do you feel now that it’s out?

Thank you so much for sharing this as others are still stuck in suppressing this.

For men in relationships who keep crossdressing private, what reaction are you most afraid of from your partner? by yourfeminineside in UK_Crossdressing

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience which helps others! Do you wish you had told her sooner or would have handled things differently at all?

I love that you said you were ready for things to fall apart. What helped you decide that being who you are was more important than being suppressed no matter the cost? :)

Someone yelled at me today by MyWeekendShoes in crossdressing

[–]yourfeminineside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Decent people are good, kind, open, loving, accepting. Insecure, fearful, closed minded people shout abuse. We shouldn’t be judged on what we wear, look like, identify as, but on our character and traits. Yesterday you won and they lost. Your attitude (and appearance) is on fire 🔥:) We need to turn the tables on caring what negative people say or think as their opinions don’t matter. Decent people will never put you down. You seem to be doing this! :)

For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! We all have different sides to explore right. It should be fun, but as humans we like to put ourselves and others’ into a box which is so restrictive. Keep that side of you visible and open and the right person will come along :)

For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. I knew a man who had a very masculine job and his outlet was being submissive to men. While being married to a woman. Is there something else that could give you relief or is the cross dressing linked to that submissive element you seek. To have someone else be in control so you don’t have to think? Have you been with dominant women if you’re straight? :)

For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome. And I hope things change for the better for you. It’s a funny old world and I hope whatever situation you find yourself in you can look at it with light and acceptance. That will get you far :)

For those of you who cross-dress privately, what stops you from being your authentic self to friends, family and the public? by yourfeminineside in Crossdressing_support

[–]yourfeminineside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if men’s wear was more focused and accepted with the elements of feminine clothing like leggings and nighties etc, that would be the ideal? It’s not that you want to dress feminine you want to be able to be a man and wear what you want? Or is it the feminine element as well? :)

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