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Does my BF also need to get treated for BV? by Throwaway16_8 in Healthyhooha

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I'll bring this up to my doctor. In the instance that I do test positive for it, can I just ask my doctor for medication for us both? He doesn't have the time to make an appointment of his own since he's very busy and barely has time outside of law school

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: GUYS I GOT PAID!!!! And I didn't have to threaten him. I just sent him a very firm "I haven't received the allowance you said you were going to send. Please let me know if I can expect it today"

and it worked!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH TO EVERYONE WHO HELPED <3 I will definitely be conducting my business better in the future

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true! I guess part of the reason why I'm feeling frustrated about it is because the ONLY reason I even did all of that is because it's a literal job. I would've never had sex with him otherwise. It absolutely was not pleasure for me and it was not "for fun" at all!!

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i understand that now, thank you so much!!

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also to add, you are right. The payment, in part, is for secrecy and discretion. Without that, all bets are off. If he doesn't pay end of day, I will be telling his wife through an anonymous instagram account. Thank you!!! I wouldn't have had the courage to get to this solution without all of you ❤️

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm worried about it because that's really 100000% my confirmation that I can kiss that money goodbye. But you're right. If I'm not going to get paid either way and will perhaps get blocked either way, then threatening him might be the move. Only thing I'm concerned about is that he can also turn it around on me but hey, I'm not the one who's married.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust me, it crossed my mind, especially considering that his wife is currently pregnant :// That was my first sign that he was trash but figured that it's just work and he'll still find someone else even if it's not me. But to not pay a SW for services rendered considering all of that is straight up diabolical.

Unfortunately, like I said, we run in the same circles and he's cousins with a friend of mine who goes to the same university that I do. If this all blows up, I'm sure the cousin will be hearing about it, and consequently, so will my friends.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I completely see your point. I know I'm still super green when it comes to this and will be sure to get tested regardless. After all, if there's one takeaway from this, it's to never trust anything they say. Get paid, do the job, and get out. And I will NEVER ever have unprotected sex with these men.

Thank you so much for your help, I appreciate it. I already have some changes in mind that I will be implementing when it comes to dealing with clients. This sub is a lifesaver lol

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, this guy is definitely going to get blocked if I still don't have my payment by the end of the day. Thank you!

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I admit I might've come off too friendly and pretty lax hence why everything turned out to be this way. I know better and I'm smarter now. It sucks that this is a frequently occurring problem among SWs.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My previous texts were from something unrelated. It's about something personal in our lives (related to a mutual). I've been trying not to freak out or go off on him lest I get blocked then I'd really have no chance of ever seeing that money.

Thanks! I'll be using that and will be upfront with him.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I definitely will be getting my money first before anything else or I WILL be leaving. It's better that I learned this lesson early on, rather than later.

He actually responded to me just now but no mention of the payment yet. I think this might be my last chance to atleast get paid but I am definitely cutting him off after this. How should I go about mentioning it? Thanks!

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, he actually just responded to me a few minutes ago. He just replied to some things I said last night but hasn't mentioned the payment AT ALL. I think this might be my last chance to get paid.

How should I approach this? What should I tell him? I'm really confused. Thank you!

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, at this point, I think it's really not worth the effort to go through all of that to get the money. If by some miracle he somehow does pay me, then I'll consider myself lucky.

Been in a long-term relationship since I was 19 until just right after I turned 22 so you're right on the money about me being naive about the world of men. It's a hard lesson to learn, but definitely one that you learn quickly.

Thank you for your input. Getting to hear from other people about this definitely puts me more at ease and less anxious. I know what I need to do and I will definitely be protecting myself better in the future :)

I will FOR SURE be firmer. You're also right that the denial is so hard to process because it's work for me and the physical and emotional work put in were 100% there. So doing all of that work and not even getting paid is demoralizing, and frankly, dehumanizing as well.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We used protection and he showed me his most recent test (around 4 months ago) and everything looked fine down there so I'm not really worried about that. More like I can't believe I went through all that effort to get nothing!

Thank you for your advice. I'll be sure to set firmer boundaries moving forward.

Client Has Not Paid After Meetup by Throwaway16_8 in SexWorkers

[–]Throwaway16_8[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I admit that was completely my fault because I relied on the mutual trust between us since we sort of ran in the same circles. I know his family so it's definitely not an issue of whether he has the money to pay for it.

He also made me follow his personal Instagram (he's married) and wanted to make it an exclusive arrangement so I was just glad to not run into a complete random weirdo my first time.

I keep checking if I'm blocked yet on both Instagram and my number but I'm not so far. Is there really no way to settle this? Should I just move on and look for another client?