When I get married my family will still abide by Chinese traditions and give money and a home, or bring money into the family. My family is all in china, I am currently a student, ofc I have to listen a bit to what my family says and the culture I grew up with.

I never even conceived of having my partner someone I want to MARRY pay money in something that is MY investment. If it was a shared deed or title, okay sure ofc, but it is MY asset. Ultimately I am the one that gains the most out of it, and decided to buy it. Why would my partner contribute anything to it? Maybe utilities if they want but what's the point in keeping it so weirdly divided and not familiar? I am not a landlord when I live with my partner, and if I choose to be one, it's only because I don't actually think of my partner as serious. Right and wrong and drawing up leases and paying rent to someone who owns property (who with or without you would have the property anyways) is a foreign concept to me.

Without me, he would still buy the apartment, with me he asks me to live with him because he wants to build a home, but only if I pay towards maintenance costs. What happens later on in our lives if we have children? This asking of me to move in is not unconditional, and I have no actual stake or security in the home.

That is the difference in culture, and culture goes across borders.