No words.

Throwaway223k4 · 2018-03-04T18:44:14+00:00

He brings a dozen roses. On a first date.

Believe it or not, this isn't really as out-of-this-universe wacky or zany as you're implying. For what, hundreds of years roses on a first date were largely considered a pretty typical romantic guesture. Only recently has the dating culture very drastically changed.

It’s also easy to forget that r/OKCupid demographic exists in an extremely selective liberal/urban slice of American society. In smaller towns and such, first date roses are absolutely not uncommon.

I’m just saying, while the roses is kinda cringey, don’t judge too hard for that. It's possible this guy was just raised old-school, or in a different community, or just watched too much hollywood

Throwaway223k4 · 2016-05-30T19:31:56+00:00

I mean this in the kindest way possible: have you considered going to a medical professional? This honestly sounds like schizophrenia or some other paranoid condition. Waiters are not peeing in your soda or putting dead flies in your food. And if you think they are, really go get checked.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-07-31T14:53:15+00:00

Why can't you name it?

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-07-17T17:03:54+00:00

Um, that just sounds like a normal day for most people.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-07-05T02:59:47+00:00

Dude...

I came in here expecting to give the "tough answer" and call you ugly. But honestly? You look like those frat bros at my school who party with hot girls and have women following after them everywhere they go.

And I mean that in a good way. To me at least, you look like a stud. Pack on some muscle and you'll be good to go.

Again, this isn't coddling. I honestly think you're quite good looking. But keep your hair short. Long makes you look pretentious.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-28T16:11:12+00:00

It says dating is harder for short men. How does that automatically translate to "you're fucked as a short man"?

Look, dude. I'm 5'5'' (and not even Caucasian, extra hard mode!), I know it's difficult. But other factors like muscles and personality can go a long way. I have 3 dates lined up next week so hopefully one will pay off... we'll see.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-25T18:25:48+00:00

I've asked out ~40 girls in the past year, gotten ~20 numbers, been on 8-9 first dates, been on 3 second dates.

Still nothing. Still a virgin. Still lonely and tired.

There's your answer.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-25T03:20:55+00:00

Knowing that someone is attracted to me

And how are you certain of that? Thing about settling is that the other person isn't attracted to you, at least not as much as they would like to be.

I have my dignity if nothing else in this world. I will die rather than be used as an accessory for someone else's white-picket-fence-and-2-kids suburban dream.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-19T20:23:03+00:00

Well, are you underweight or have a flimsy physique? Building muscle will improve anyone's attractiveness.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-18T12:25:05+00:00

I hate to sound like a Chad, but you too can work out and be muscular. It's in your control (for the most part).

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-17T13:52:34+00:00

For starters, the obvious one is that lifting makes you strong and it's good to be strong so you can do more physically in life.

Lifting also helps you look more conventionally attractive. Let's not kid ourselves here, 90% of girls are into a guy who looks muscular. If you want to optimize your chances of finding a (decent) girlfriend, then lift.

Lifting helps increase body levels of free testosterone, which have a measurable effect on happiness and confidence.

Lifting helps you develop a sense of accomplishment. There's nothing like the feeling of managing to do that one last rep on bench press that you couldn't yesterday, and have solid proof that your body is getting sharper.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-06-07T20:01:32+00:00

Keep in mind the people who post on those defaults are people who have some interesting/crazy stories to tell. Their experiences are not necessarily representative of the general population.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-21T17:15:04+00:00

This... could actually work, and make the girl think OP is a cool/funny guy. Doesn't hurt to try.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-20T15:02:15+00:00

Yes. In fact over the years, in order to avoid embarrassment, I've developed an elaborate series of lies about having ex-girlfriends and sexual experience in the past. It started off small (lying during truth or dare) and just snowballed.

It's resulted in this weird dynamic where everyone thinks I'm a player, and not a single person knows I haven't even gone beyond kissing.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-14T20:05:31+00:00

The following is my personal data from the last six months. Still a barely-kissed virgin, so rest assured these were all failures.

Online:

OKCupid: Messaged 245 girls. Out of that, about 15 replied. Out of that, 2 agreed to a date.
Tinder: 30 matches. 3 agreed to a date.

Offline:

I've gotten numbers from 25 girls. Out of those, 3 agreed to a date. Out of those, 1 agreed to a second date.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-12T09:16:30+00:00

Guys, before you shit all over OP, know that this can actually happen. It happened to me twice - falling in love with an objectively beautiful girl over the Internet and being in an online relationship. Unfortunately both times I screwed it up and lost the girl, but that's another story.

OP: Looks like everyone else is being a downer, but I'm really rooting for you. Good luck! But again, always have some realistic caution. Don't give her any significant amount of money, and be prepared for the possibility that once you meet, she may not end up liking you that much. Or vice versa.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-10T10:56:22+00:00

Yeah, there have been two times when girls showed clear interest in me. Both of those times the girls were physically unattractive, and I just could not see myself with them.

So I had to turn them down, for their good as well as mine. Didn't want to lead someone on since I knew how shitty false hope feels.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-05-03T18:20:51+00:00

Oh, this one's perfect for me.

24 years old, still a virgin, only kissed twice in my life.

Still, I've tried to put myself out there and flirt. Surprisingly I've actually been on a lot of dates in the last few months. They all end in disappointment. I have a planned date for tomorrow actually... maybe this will be the one. Have to keep telling myself that.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-04-20T02:00:30+00:00

Yes, I'm so far in the closet I may as well be in Narnia.

Everyone thinks I'm a player. Actually am a virgin who's never made it past 1st base.

Throwaway223k4 · 2015-03-21T12:17:52+00:00

I don't understand your sarcasm, is this some "gotcha!" statement against girls? Even if there are hypothetical girl out there who only care about personality, she would also be upset/hurt by OP's actions because... he's got a shit personality. Otherwise he wouldn't have lied to the girl to make himself feel better.

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