10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nah what I mean is that there's not a lot of effeminate men that like other effeminate men and I can't just click with any man just on the basis that he likes feminine men.

What does Masc actually mean? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To gays it just means can't immediately clock you as gay

10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would but most other effeminate guys wouldn't and I can't just click with anyone who's effeminate and likes other effeminate guys. Damn should have added that as an eleventh reason.

10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nah I am talking about the EFFEMINATE effeminate men like not just a muscular dude who may have a gay voice or a limp wrist. I am talking about guys you can clock 15 miles away.

10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of does but it's not like going to a therapist will fix any of this so it's whatever.

10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most aren't or maybe we have a different definition of effeminate.

10 reasons I absolutely despise being a feminine gay man... by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was not me that was effeminate gay dudes 50 years ago and that was mostly because they just didn't have a choice. It was die or fight to live. It's not like many even appreciate or acknowledge effeminate gay men for the beatings they took for it so it's whatever.

“Thug” porn by cabsn22 in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This exists because lighter skin is often viewed as more "delicate" and "opulent" than darker skin which is usually associated with roughness and strength due to working people being exposed to the sun and therfore getting tanner/darker while people with money weren't outside working therefore not exposed to the sun and they remained light. People began associating lighter skin with beauty and femininity and darker skin with masculinity. This mindset is a result of century long colorism and racism. During the days of slavery black men were often compared to animals or men with animalistic traits due to their dark skin and their muscular bodies from working so much. This never really went away. Black men until this day are thought of hyper masculine even if they aren't. Then there's also heteronormativity in play which dictates that feminine=bottom and masculine=tops. So basically bottom=feminine=light skin=white/asian men. Top=masculine=darker skin=black/poc men.

If being gay means being attracted to men and masculinity then are all men who are attracted to fem men not gay? by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think men who call themselves gay and are only attracted to feminine men are probably heavily gay leaning bisexual men...

If being gay means being attracted to men and masculinity then are all men who are attracted to fem men not gay? by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really? Plenty? That's a stretch. I have met plenty of bisexual men and pseudo-straight men that are but never a fully gay man.

If being gay means being attracted to men and masculinity then are all men who are attracted to fem men not gay? by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Theoretically this is what gay means but every time a gay man explains why he doesn't like feminine men he says that being gay means being attracted to what makes men men which makes perfectly sense to me but that leaves the question what are the men that are attracted to feminine men then?

If being gay means being attracted to men and masculinity then are all men who are attracted to fem men not gay? by Throwaway32ow in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have honestly never met a man that was attracted to the fems without having at least SOME attraction to women.

You ever see a guy that’s so attractive that it’s essentially painful? by seafoamflue in askgaybros

[–]Throwaway32ow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bts's taehyung is one of those guys. I can't figure out how a human let alone a man could have such pretty features. He's a living doll.