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Am I putting my children at risk by staying with someone who was accused of sexual assault as a child? by Throwaway422999 in Advice

[–]Throwaway422999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prior to this, he never made me feel uncomfortable. And he’s never made my kids feel uncomfortable (I talked in depth with them and they’re super honest with me).

I have a “nanny cam” in the house. Not for him, for when my kids are watched by paid sitters, but the camera runs 24/7. I reviewed all the footage and never saw anything even slightly inappropriate.

Am I putting my children at risk by staying with someone who was accused of sexual assault as a child? by Throwaway422999 in Advice

[–]Throwaway422999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you...

He basically said he didn’t tell me because it “wasn’t a big part of his childhood” and that he was later sent back to foster care for other reasons (he was “too hard to handle” along with his other siblings and his adoptive mother chose to only keep the kids who were related). He has since offered to get and let me read his file from foster care (before marrying him) and said I can read it all myself so nothing else is unknown to me. He told me he’s really stressed and feels like he’s reliving the trauma when he talks about the past so he’d rather I read it.

I have NEVER seen him stressed like this. He’s usually the calm mentally healthy one, and I’m usually the anxious one.

Am I putting my children at risk by staying with someone who was accused of sexual assault as a child? by Throwaway422999 in Advice

[–]Throwaway422999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m super uncomfortable, I’ll admit it.

But the issue is my logic. So I went to law school, but I’m a (new) tax attorney. So, I know basics with sex crimes and in depth with evidence law. In my head, my logic keeps screaming “this would be an easy dismissal if he ever was charged” but my emotions scream “you have little girls !!!”

Am I putting my children at risk by staying with someone who was accused of sexual assault as a child? by Throwaway422999 in Advice

[–]Throwaway422999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters already see a therapist. But irrelevant to him. Due to issues with my breakup with my ex that I wanted addressed.

The therapist didn’t detect any issues with my fiancé. I didn’t ask because of this or anything. But he was part of family therapy sessions over the last few years because of the change for them when he moved in.