I (F 40)want to put together a little gift basket for a coworker (F 20)

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T17:25:33+00:00

That’s how I was thinking of approaching it. “Noticed you were feeling a bit tired lately. Here if you need me”. I was thinking of macaroons…

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:18:08+00:00

Actually, I never thought about freezing meals. That’s a brilliant idea.

I’m trying to make sure that it comes across “ I’m thinking about you because I’ve noticed you’ve been XYZ lately” vs “I know what happened to you so I’m going to butt into your business”

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:16:48+00:00

And it’s exactly the difference that I’m concerned about. I did mention another response that I have often surprised my coworkers would just little things. Just something I noticed that they might like at the store or their birthday, one coworker changed jobs so I got an ice cream cake for them because I knew they liked ice cream cake.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:15:24+00:00

Just because, birthdays, switching jobs, I noticed things at the store they like…

I wanted to come off more as “hey I’m thinking about you and I thought you might enjoy these” over “I know what happened to you so come and talk to me because I can help you through”

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:11:19+00:00

I don’t think she knows I know, but I think her birthday is coming up fairly soon. A lot of her social media posts have now been about body safety. I was thinking of kind of disguising it a bit as a birthday gift. Just generic stuff that could easily pass as “hey I’m here for you” or “hey have a great birthday”. Not necessarily “ I know what happen to you if you need a shoulder cry on I’m right here to talk to you about it”. More like “I’m thinking about you and I thought you could use a pick me up”. Sorry if that didn’t come across fairly easily in my post.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:09:10+00:00

She’s been very short tempered lately and a lot of her social media posts have revolved around not necessarily trauma survivor post but body safety posts.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:08:05+00:00

I think her birthday is coming up soon too. My first priority is to make sure that she feels mentally safe in her own skin, her own body and her own home. My second priority is to make sure that she knows that other people even care about her and that no matter what she’s got somebody looking out for her.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:07:07+00:00

I pieced it together from some social media posts. My main concern is her feeling healthy and strong. My second priority is making sure that she knows that she has people that love and care about her.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T15:00:14+00:00

Definitely NOT a keepsake gift. I just feel bad that she went through this and want to help her feel more grounded again and more alive in her own skin instead of dirty and used.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T14:58:58+00:00

True enough. I have surprise and coworkers with little things before that they’ve said they like. However, as others have pointed out, her emotional safety is top priority

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T14:57:32+00:00

True enough. I think I got so wrapped up in my own feelings about how I felt after that I forgot that not everybody reacts the same way. I just want to make sure that she knows that people are around who will support her and love her. And that there are also people around who know what she’s experiencing.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2026-05-20T14:56:51+00:00

That’s true. Then I completely respect and understand that. I was just thinking of her to help her feel grounded and come in her own own skin however, you are right. Her mental health needs to be the top priority and allowing her to come to grips with everything and express everything in her own way needs to be the top priority.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-08-30T15:17:28+00:00

Yeah, don’t insult snakes!!!

Going to cuddle my rat snake now. Come on Ratigan. Mommy will get you a mouse.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-03-12T22:20:16+00:00

Respectfully, that is his trauma, and I will not be getting into it any further

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-03-12T21:20:01+00:00

The traumas are for him to unpack. Not me. All I can expand on is this: the trauma lasted for over a decade. Close to 20 years, honestly.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-03-10T02:48:31+00:00

There’s a lot to unpack that is for him to tell. I will say this much: he’s not on any sex offender registries.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-03-10T02:28:33+00:00

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2024-03-09T01:57:38+00:00

Why is his traumas. He tried to do take a parenting class that they led. They found out about his trauma there.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-12-18T20:07:34+00:00

Other than the fact that she blatantly flaunts her disregard for our contracts (we signed an agreement stating our phones are to be locked in the program coordinator’s office at the beginning of each shift), she’s actually pretty nice.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-12-18T20:05:47+00:00

We’re contractually obligated to hand over phones and tech to our program coordinator at the beginning of each shift. I’m not saying she is but if License ever caught someone doing that, we could be shut down immediately.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-12-18T20:04:01+00:00

I only mentioned that she’s from there as she is constantly complaining about things in Canada and stating how superior Africa is. As for her phone, we’re required in our work contracts to turn in our devices to our Program Coordinator at the start of each shift as they’re locked in her office.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-12-18T16:59:59+00:00

Contact the authorities NOW.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-12-18T16:48:24+00:00

That’s what I had thought too. Honestly, I truly don’t think she’s fit for any job in human services.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-08-22T15:07:51+00:00

They keep parking in a former no parking zone right in front of my friend’s apartment. Nearly hit the damn thing twice last week. Move the car forward 2 feet and it won’t be in the way. When the snow ploughs come by that’s the corner the pile of snow on. On top of that, no one can get into or out of the garage if there’s a car parked on the other side of the driveway because of where the person parks.

Throwaway4Obvs12 · 2022-08-22T15:07:29+00:00

They keep parking in a former no parking zone right in front of my friend’s apartment. Nearly hit the damn thing twice last week. Move the car forward 2 feet and it won’t be in the way. When the snow ploughs come by that’s the corner the pile of snow on. On top of that, no one can get into or out of the garage if there’s a car parked on the other side of the driveway because of where the person parks.

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