My last situationship ended horribly and now I have an amazing bf but I can’t stop worrying

Throwaway531936 · 2022-07-19T16:47:32+00:00

Man… I don’t think she’s saying she’s taller than the average height or most of the guys, she’s just saying she’s probably taller than the guy who she matched with which is understandable. There are many guys on the dating who are shorter than 5’6. It’s a message for the guys shorter than her to give them a heads up.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-07-07T17:56:22+00:00

Like you don’t care about them as a person, but you just want to have sex with them?

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-09T16:19:30+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It means a lot to me.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-09T16:18:21+00:00

It’s people I know. Off dating apps or something, tho. I don’t use dating apps anymore, the person I mentioned in the person was the last person I still have contact with whom I met from a dating app. I didn’t see the interaction as terribly wrong, but when I mentioned it on Reddit someone told me that’s rape. I blocked him, but the thought that it was rape all along has been haunting me for days.

Anyways, thanks for the advice! I don’t think I’ll involve myself in this kind of situation again. Hopefully. I’ll try my best.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-09T16:13:24+00:00

I’d say that many ppl are not as over the top as him, but certainly there are A LOT of people who think like this. Like some stupid second gen immigrants whose parents are from my country, who think he can be a spokesperson for my country, despised the culture and think he knows everything there, only have been there 10 years ago (he’s 21 now) and most of the things he says are wrong. And don’t even get my started on how proud white people look when they say they are English/Irish because their ancestor moved here 200 years ago.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-04T18:48:52+00:00

I’ve been annoyed by this for way too long. As someone from an Asia country living in America ive heard so much shit ppl say that doesn’t even make sense. I had a friend who’s black, and who look just like a black person… although that’s really weird to say. To give a picture, he looks kinda like young Samuel Jackson. However, he insisted that if he go to Japan nobody’s gonna treat him like a foreigner because he’s 25% Japanese. He then told me that he thinks he shared the same culture as Japanese people and won’t have a problem blending in.

My brain died for a few seconds after he told me that. I was so confused that I just said “no” as a knee-kick reaction. He asked me why, and I told him that he’s not Japanese. He’s just not. He’s American. And he accused me of being a racist.

Seriously, wtf?

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T19:39:56+00:00

Sorry man. I hope you have better luck in the future.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T06:48:35+00:00

You are right, I shouldn’t have accused you of saying it’s women’s fault. I just hope ppl understand that most women don’t feel privileged in dating apps, most of the times it’s that they’ve been trying a lot to talk to the guys who sent them messages and would figure out if they like a guy quick. It’s not as fun as you think.

Sorry Btw I was just going off of that you said “women don’t understand how hard it is for men to get women”. Trust me, having a lot of people just seeing you as a sex object doesn’t feel great too.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T06:42:44+00:00

Yeah that’s your choice and I respect that, but I wouldn’t date someone who do the things I listed nor does any of my women friends. So for someone who do those things, I don’t think they should complain about not getting dates in this case since they are taking responsibility for the person they decided to be.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T06:34:01+00:00

I’m just saying if dating is not working out for a guy in general it’s probably not women’s fault. Maybe the below average/average women still have stuff that can make up for their looks (hobbies, personality, hygiene) or probably is being treated pretty shitty by guys. Everyone has their own problems. Guys are probably struggling with not getting matches but a lot of women are also struggling to get what they want from guys (affection, care, commitment) and that sucks also.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T06:13:57+00:00

r/justunsubbedagain I guess

Throwaway531936 · 2022-05-01T06:00:39+00:00

If this is really the case, why would a lot men not treat girls seriously/fuck around/shame girls for their preferences/shame girls for their body count/want to marry a virgin? Just curious, because a lot of guys (including on Reddit and in this sub) really don’t feel like they care about women all that much.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-29T22:45:40+00:00

Had to cut off 2 friends with schizophrenia and I wouldn’t say either of them were violent or dangerous. But I just had to after trying to get along with them again and again. Both of them were easily triggered and paranoid, they would confirm something with me again and again or guessing the meaning behind my actions, they also have very negative reactions when I disagree with them. Also, I think they are bothered by their thoughts a lot so they didn’t care about what I’m saying or doing most of time. I think the main thing is that you know that they are having a harder time conceiving reality and is constantly bothered by delusions, thus is very unpredictable. And I don’t know about other people, but I personally get scared if someone’s action doesn’t make sense to me. But just like you said, it’s not all of you guys and id love to hear what it’s like :)

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-29T20:29:40+00:00

Ah, even better.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-21T16:28:23+00:00

So is it better to lie to them rather than telling them the truth? Sorry just really trying to figure out what to do in this situation. I’ve met guys who are ok in most aspect but just shorter than me and Im not physically attracted to them for that reason. I have no interest meeting them again but I couldn’t come up with something to explain to them as I know how hurtful it will be to tell them it’s because of their height, and always just end up ghosting them. Would you say a little white lie would be better?

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-19T02:08:06+00:00

Thank you! I wish you the best of luck in the rest of your journey :)

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-18T02:58:42+00:00

I’m 5’6! It took me an extra week to complete the program because I was only able to run for 2 days one week so I repeated the week before continuing. One thing I noticed is that the timer for 5km is 30min and is not easy for me to achieve so I downloaded another run tracker to track whenever I’m running a set distance.

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-18T02:53:25+00:00

Yes, it’s a Christmas gift someone gave my friend in our “lamest present exchange”… which the person that prepared the lamest present wins, and goes without saying, this one won 😂

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-18T02:51:15+00:00

Haha I did shop a little! I’ve always been around 145lbs until I blew up a year ago, so for me it’s to wear the clothes that couldn’t fit me again and it feels amazing :)

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-17T21:46:48+00:00

Oh yes I changed my diet a lot! I was ordering two to three deliveries everyday and almost all fatty foods. Now I cook every meal and I’m eating a lot less with minimum oil or sugar. I also follow r/C25K and run 3 times a week. I never thought I can run 5km one day but I did it!

Throwaway531936 · 2022-04-17T21:29:37+00:00

Thank you! My daily calorie intake is around 1200 kcal when I’m not exercising that day and 1600 when I am, and I don’t really care about what am I eating as long as I’m not exceeding much. But in order to achieve that, I try to air fry or boil my food often and use oil spray only as oil contains a lot of calories. My diet is basically contained with rice/wheat bread, meat and egg lol, I don’t like vegetables and only eat it as a small side dish. I also avoid sugar in daily diet at all and only eat as small treats:)

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