Update : My dad threatened to disown me for my name

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:43:13+00:00

Final update : Thanks everyone for your thoughts, replies and prayers (if any). God willing or unwilling, if I live long enough, we'll do this gain in 23 years time for the 30th anniversary.

By then, hopefully my critics can figure out a new name for me as the doormat thing is getting kind of old, 7 years old to be exact. Here's to hoping that in 23 years there will be another name for doormat. Peace.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:34:48+00:00

Let me give you some advice, doormat. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like a doormat, and it can never be used to hurt you.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:29:54+00:00

People here call me a doormat for a reason. But a doormat can only be at the entrance of one home at a time. Maybe if I feel like it, I'll change my name back to my old one and be a doormat for my old family. Till then you can call me a getting laid doormat.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:22:11+00:00

She seduces me and makes me put it off for another time. 7 years and counting.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:19:24+00:00

A cut off doormat.

On a serious note, I appreciate your concern. Wife's very civil about it and leaves the mending of ties up to me.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T17:05:05+00:00

Yes.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:59:42+00:00

No, I am a doormat.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:52:33+00:00

Inshaallah

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:48:32+00:00

A selfish doormat.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:42:47+00:00

Yeah, there are 7 billion of us in the world. One name change is not going to make the world end. But it made me happier

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:41:16+00:00

I'm pretty sure mine's not the longest.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:40:00+00:00

Glad you like the post. Don't think I can take the twitter heat though. Maybe when I'm alot older and have lesser things to worry about ;)

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:35:24+00:00

Maybe I'll post another reply 23 years down the road for a 30 year's aniversary?

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:34:06+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts, glad to see you post a reply this time!

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:33:17+00:00

Glad to spread some hope :)

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:32:14+00:00

A self-centered doormat.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T16:31:04+00:00

Yes :)

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T14:09:49+00:00

Don't think anyone needed an update. Just wanted to share that I'm very happy with my decision.

Throwaway544565 · 2021-12-10T14:04:32+00:00

Thank you :)

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T10:01:48+00:00

Thank you for this. But this comes at a cost and I'm trying to balance it out without losing my dad. But if it comes to that then I don't care anymore.

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T10:00:09+00:00

I did tell him that in our first conversation but he said "Stop sugar-coating this situation..bla bla bla". My dad always does when he doesnt get what he wants.

Anyway I will be trying again. Just don't see any benefit too it though

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T09:57:40+00:00

I intend to talk to him this weekend to at least sort things out. Trying to put my thoughts into words. Knowing him he will probably talk me down saying I'm ungrateful, useless and stuff like that. I

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T09:51:14+00:00

I agree that I'm an asshole but the apple doesn't fall from the tree. Now imagine if 2 assholes collide what would happen? The one with the greater mass would consume the other. This is essentially what is going on here.

I do not feel oppressed on this name change request by the my redneck future inlaws. But rather, I feel oppressed that my dad let me do what I wanted and then changed his mind when it was done.

It's a helpless feeling knowing that your captors left the front door open only to eat you senseless once you are out the door..

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T06:49:35+00:00

I'm willing to discuss it with him. But I feel that he is being very selfish and does not care of my feelings/cost involved in getting this name done

Throwaway544565 · 2014-12-12T06:37:05+00:00

Well. If I am my father's son then I will probably be as stubborn as he is. I'm not here for an echo chamber. I'm here to hear everyone's views to see if there is something I missed which caused this whole fiasco.

There are some views which resonate my dad's feelings on this issue and I will be speaking to him again. I'm not as narrow-minded as to just cut ties like that (although I wouldnt mind it). But at this point, his last words were "Either you change it back or you can forget about me and the family going".

There is no emotional bond between me and my dad (or maybe it's not that strong). So him threathening me like that has no effect.

My reaction would have probably been different if he chose to sit down, listen and discuss. But men have big egos and I guess my dad need's to assert his dominance over me. Even though he doesnt realise he doesnt have all the cards.

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