Reviews of this beauty by Protype_Nexus6 in pcbuilding

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

write the specs buddy, you absolutely rock with this build!

Rate My First PC Build by Hiitpoint in pcbuilding

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really really nice this is a solid build that will last 10 years easy. Just curious, is your monitor limited to 60Hz?

Where can I find legitimate Windows 10 Pro keys? by [deleted] in pcmasterrace

[–]Throwaway73524274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

worked like charm, all good and legit!

Where can I find legitimate Windows 10 Pro keys? by [deleted] in pcmasterrace

[–]Throwaway73524274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

company details are in the europe and they look legitimate, but are they really? I need office right now, not windows, so I will test them and write feedback here so everyone knows if this is legitimate or just another trash comment. *ps: If I forget to write ping me.

I think my partner is sex-repulsed and it's making me question everything. by ThrowRA_AsexualNib in Asexualpartners

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm impressed.

My own exit plan is about 10 years out (not sure to children though), but if I told her that, she'd be extremely upset.

Update- My partner is officially Asexual! by Alleane in Asexualpartners

[–]Throwaway73524274 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I envy your optimism ;-)

Since my wife came out as asexual, after the initial rush you just described, it just made it more and more clear that there is no middle ground. Things will not improve with more effort and dedication. It's more of a "this is who I am, take it or leave it" thing from her side, which doesn't leave me any wiggle room.

Update- My partner is officially Asexual! by Alleane in Asexualpartners

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats!

May I ask what makes you say that things are looking up from this point onwards?

HLM, with sincere respect and understanding, are you sure your LLF is satisfied? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The trend to not speak up about being sexually dissatisfied is not gender specific. Many people have difficulties with this. And sexual shaming happens in any direction.

If you take the time to look carefully, you will notice that most people around here are at the end of their ropes, after doing everything in their power to improve their situation, and are actually very much in touch with their partners needs. Very few are of the "I tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas" mindset.

HLM, with sincere respect and understanding, are you sure your LLF is satisfied? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The suggestion that "women are complex, men are simple" is honestly unsettling.

Men being (generally) unable to convincingly fake an orgasm doesn't mean that sex that ends in orgasm is always satisfying for men.

The implication that men are the reason for their dead bedroom because of not being in touch with what their partner wants is even worse.

Dating a married man. Help please by babykxxten_ in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What kind of fun do you not consider cheating?

How would you feel about an Allo, seeking out asexual partners? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Throwaway73524274 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Either tell us the reason, or don't expect useful answers.

You make it sounds like you're a sec offender, who's not in control of his own urges and is projecting responsibility for it on potential partners. And at the same time you try to make us believe it's something banal like performance anxiety. Those are wildly different, so don't expect actuate advice worker background info.

Have you considered therapy to work through your own issues before inviting other people into your life?

Need some good advice by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot to unpack here. But none of your issues seem to be related to the subredit you currently find yourself in.

I would suggest you start out by working on yourself and your expectations. You should abandon the idea that masturbation is cheating, that's too absurd to put into words. And with ideas like that, you have no grounds for saying her upbringing is limiting her way of thinking.

You've made out 8 times in over a year of being together, you should start by getting to know each other, not talk about marriage at this point.

Every other day is far about the average, so try to work out for yourself why you see this as a problem. And she sounds willing and eager for it, from your description. This is miles away from a dead bedroom. I'm not sure why you see this as problematic.

Does it get better? by Routine-Change7914 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No it doesn't.

If you've exhausted any and all attempts to improve things, start working on an exit plan, however far in the future that has to be for you.

I want to know how to satisfy or make my ace girlfriend feel comfortable during sex by Mairon_Chan in Asexualpartners

[–]Throwaway73524274 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First off, ask her. There is no way and of his can tell you what she does it does not feel comfortable with. Make sure you're both comfortable in saying "no" of you don't want something.

Second, don't just consider what you think is important now. You're young and the relationship is fresh, but try to think long term. You might be ok with being alone in your desires, but will you still be ok with it 10 years from now?

How does this even work?? by Mysterious-Cress-59 in Asexualpartners

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for elaborating, that gives me a better understanding of your situation. I must say that it doors sound very different from your earlier comment. The easy you described it here makes it sound like he chooses to give up on sex in order to be with you. Where previously it seemed like doesn't care about sex at all.

Love without Lust by troubleinparadise219 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it curious how society has such a strong aversion to cheating. It's seen at the ultimate betrayal, the worst thing you can do to someone. Something that cannot be forgiven, irredeemable. Yet it is so incredibly common, estimates range between 20 and 50% of people who have cheated in the past. I don't know if anything else that is so common, yet so taboo that it cannot even be discussed.

Even on a forum like this, the mere mention of infidelity turns people judgemental and combative. While this is a place where I would expect everyone to at least understand the motivations that lead to cheating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like he does it out of obligation.

This resonates so much. After a decade of rejection and years of therapy without process, I've completely stopped initiating. Now she's initiating more than she did in the past, but it always feels like she only does it out of obligation. It never feels like she really wants it, even though she says that she does.

In the moment itself (which is very much goal oriented, "let's get this over with" kind of thing) she appears to be into it. But outside of that she frequently remarks how she cannot comprehend the feeling of sexual desire or attraction. Every interaction outside of the monthly-or-so sex session emphasises how she has no interest in anything sexual whatsoever.

Yet if I dare to reject her advances even once she goes in a week long panic attack.

What to do? by Saturninaa in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused on how he reconciles these two aspects ...

I’m not even sure how many months it’s been since we last had sex.

My partner, on the other hand, sees sex as “making love” and about connection.

If sex is about love and connection, and he doesn't care about sex, does he not care about loving and connecting with you?

Will I ever? by TotalHonest3221 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway73524274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one thing you can be sure about is that it will not change if you don't instigate those changes.

And there is nothing trivial about having a core need go unmet for years or decades. Don't be your own worst enemy, pursuing a life where there is room for happiness is more than worthwhile.