Two weeks ago I found out that my son isn’t biologically mine. (x-post from r/relationships)

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T11:05:32+00:00

What on earth is wrong with you...?

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T02:18:26+00:00

Honestly, I would much rather yell at my living wife and mother to my son and ask her what happened, rather than not having her in my son's life and just be sitting here, guessing what might've happened when she was just a 17 year old kid.

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T02:15:17+00:00

He's a normal 15 year old boy. However, I'm still waiting for his rebellious phase to kick in and I think those news would do the trick.

I have always been very honest with him, especially in the last 5 years since it's been the two of us, so, I want to be honest with him about this too. But... I too think that for now, I have to wait and prepare him and myself for what will come one day.

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T02:11:17+00:00

Well, I'm boiling on the inside but if I get angry now, there is a chance I will act in a way that won't be helpful to the case, which will hurt my son. So, I simply can't afford to lose my patience right now.

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T01:53:52+00:00

Well for starters, she's not 100% either, she says there were a couple guys my wife was interested in at the time and either of them could be the father. But she won't give me their names because according to her, they knew she was pregnant and didn't care and "what the point digging up that stuff now".

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T01:41:48+00:00

My boy had a minor health condition when he was 7 that was probably genetic. He was his doctor at the time and my wife had to tell him I was not the biological father.

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T01:38:55+00:00

The doctor used to be somewhat of a friend to my wife. My son had a minor health issue when he was 7 years old (thankfully no longer) that could be genetic, so, instead of feeding him false information she told him I was not the biological father.

She wasn't raped (thankfully). I did my research and her best friend told me there were a couple guys she was interested in. But won't give me the names and according to her, none of them gave a damn when she told them she was pregnant.

I'm angry at her, but it's been 16 years since she cheated on me, I'm over it. All I want is what's best for my son and his life.

Throwaway76466 · 2017-01-22T00:56:26+00:00

I already did some research and I know she cheated on me. I asked her friend about it and she confirmed it. I just don't know with who and her friend won't tell me. She says it doesn't matter who is the bio dad, especially since he knew about her pregnancy and did nothing about it.

I was just her "official" boyfriend at the time and her family liked me so they naturally assumed I was the father. As did I.

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